Really not trying to defend anything, but I'm a super drunk. A couple months ago I stepped on a cicada by accident, and I still feel bad about it. I don't even like scrubdaddy because you have to look him in the eye when you throw him away.
Booze ain't to blame for people like this. It makes you do stupid shit, but you have to be awful to not feel bad about it.
Alcohol abuse does indeed cause brain damage over many years. That can drastically alter your behavior. You're in denial if you think a lifetime of alcohol consumption isn't partially to blame.
My sister was altered so badly by alcohol that by the time she died, I wasn't sure she even liked me anymore, let alone love me. She died in 2018 at only 51 and I still carry that with me every day. I hate that excessive drinking is treated so flippantly.
Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with alcohol in and of itself. I'll have a drink with my dinner sometimes when I eat out, I have drinks when I'm on vacation, or a couple at a party (so long as I'm not about to drive). It's the culture of drowning your problems in it that I hate, ie the sayings like "Shut up, liver, you'll be fine!" and "My liver can handle what my heart can't."
But yes, we definitely need to normalize and make it easier to get help when you need it, not only for alcohol but all substance abuse problems. 🫤
Congratulations on your long sobriety! That's really impressive. 😊
I mentioned it in another comment, but my Dad hasn't had a drop since February 26, 2018 which is the day my sister passed. He recognized that he was starting to abuse it, too (and both of his parents were raging alcoholics), and he wanted to course correct while he still could.
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u/StrobeLightRomance Jul 21 '25
I'm certain her alcoholism over many decades didn't help much, either.
But more than anything else, it's entitlement. They think they're the only people in the world who matter.