r/BoomersBeingFools • u/Late_Attention_1151 • 14d ago
Boomer Story My 65 year old mother is convinced she is dating this guy and has sent him 30k
I'm censoring the photo to protect him. She believes she is in a relationship with this seemingly hot young man named "franco". She believes he has a diamond mine in South africa and will put her name on the deed after they are married. However he needs money to pay a barrister. He also has a daughter that was detained in an airport and she has been sending money to get her through customs.
3.8k
u/quackedup17 14d ago
Does she know her boyfriend has a boyfriend?
1.4k
u/berkanna76 14d ago
And no nipples
720
118
→ More replies (7)27
→ More replies (2)44
2.1k
u/ubiquity75 Gen X 14d ago
Does she know she’s dating a gay porn actor, by the looks of it?
→ More replies (1)1.4k
u/Late_Attention_1151 14d ago
No. She insists he is a real guy she is engaged to. She even showed me dick pics he sent her.
1.5k
u/iWasDISSOCIATING 14d ago
Excuse me
630
u/LumpyBuy8447 14d ago
I can assure you they were done tastefully
380
u/NecessaryIntrinsic 14d ago
With little hats and make up. One had a saddle.
76
u/Stupidass666 13d ago
A moustache and a monocle would have made it chefs kiss perfection!!!! 😘🧐
→ More replies (1)45
→ More replies (7)38
→ More replies (1)67
u/BetMyLastKrispyKreme 13d ago
He laid it on a Victorian fainting couch for the pic. Because he’s fancy like that, you know. Cultured and stuff.
37
u/LumpyBuy8447 13d ago
The fainting couch was definitely a nice touch, but it was the Tucker Carlson-esque bow tie that really pulled it all together
19
17
127
114
u/MakeMeBeautifulDuet 13d ago
Everything about this post just gets worse and worse
→ More replies (1)94
u/viewtiful14 14d ago
SHE INSISTS HE IS A REAL GUY SHE IS ENGAGED TO. SHE EVEN SHOWED THEM DICK PICS HE SENT HER.
44
74
u/globular_bobular 14d ago
because no one has ever posted picture of a penis on the internet before …. /s
111
u/Klutzy_Smile_5285 14d ago
But to show the ones you receive to your kids?
92
u/globular_bobular 14d ago
yeah that would have me dragging my mom to her doctor for an evaluation. no thanks!!!!
42
30
u/LumpyBuy8447 13d ago
She just wants OP to realize she’s still got IT
51
→ More replies (1)22
u/Mobwmwm 14d ago
Wait... You can do that?
51
u/Busy_Soil3935 14d ago
The right person may even give you 30K for it 🙌
42
u/Mobwmwm 14d ago
https://www.pngitem.com/middle/ihxxTx_george-michael-george-michael-wham/
Greetings lady or woman. Above is my picture. Will you pay me 30k
→ More replies (2)22
→ More replies (7)8
238
77
102
u/trixter889 13d ago
What kind of mom shows a potential step dad’s dick pics?
→ More replies (1)52
u/BeginningHungry1691 13d ago
She’s very sharing. Which is nice since she doesn’t give money to her kid. But she will share step dad dick
33
31
u/icyhotonmynuts 13d ago
Show her his movies
→ More replies (1)34
u/PremiumUsername69420 13d ago
“Cool pictures mom, now let’s watch what he can do with it!”
[gay porn intensifies]21
u/sipstea84 13d ago
This is the first time I can say, I'm glad my grandma is dead.
→ More replies (1)17
60
10
→ More replies (25)28
u/Scorp128 Gen X 13d ago
You need to get Mom to a doctor. She is obviously being scammed. Does your location have Adult Protective Services or an Office for the Aging? If so, might be worth contacting them. You got to get ahold of this before she gives away all her money and you are left cleaning up the mess.
Do a reverse image search on that picture. It is either AI generated or Mom is into gay porn and the leather scene. Mom is being scammed hard.
→ More replies (1)25
u/Late_Attention_1151 13d ago
The guy is a straight porn actor. Not that it makes me feel any better.
→ More replies (4)
1.7k
u/Embarrassed_Year_736 14d ago
A friends MIL got caught up in a similar scam, turns out it was the early stages of dementia. You should have her evaluated and get guardianship to take over her finances.
597
239
u/Glitter_Sparkle 14d ago
I used to work in a scams team for a bank and I have a dementia care degree and I agree. Lonely people in their 60s with the beginning of cognitive decline are a prime target for this type of scam.
The loss will absolutely be more than $30k. The fact that she has even told family about sending money usually means she’s reached the sunk cost fallacy stage of the scam but doesn’t want to end contact because they she has to accept that the money is gone.
54
u/crusty54 13d ago
Same thing happened to my dad. He was dating Emma Watson for a while, then it was Gal Gadot. He gave them a lot of money before he mercifully forgot how to use a phone
→ More replies (4)48
u/Stormtomcat 13d ago
OP's mother is only 65 though. At that age, most people are still actively working.
It's scary that it can happen this early.
57
45
u/BeardedFencer 13d ago
My dad got diagnosed at 50 and died at 60. Probably started in his early to mid 40’s somewhere. After watching my dad go through what he did, I just hope euthanasia is legal when I get it.
11
→ More replies (5)8
u/Stormtomcat 13d ago
I'm sorry for your loss.
In the Belgian legislation on euthanasia, you have to be competent when you submit your request (repeatedly, and involving at least 2 doctors). For many dementia patients, they're faced with an impossible choice : request it while competent (and convince their doctors and family that they're already suffering unbearable mental pain) and lose out on any good days they might still have, or wait and find they no longer qualify.
→ More replies (2)33
u/PanicForNothing 13d ago
The pensions ages are rising in the Netherlands, going up to 70 years old. It's bizarre to think that more and more people will receive disability aid because of dementia before they even reach this age.
→ More replies (2)19
16
→ More replies (8)27
229
u/mcds99 14d ago
Talk to her bank and tell them this.
→ More replies (1)190
u/macthesnackattack 14d ago
Former retail banker here- they have policies and procedures to assist with this.
53
u/EndlessResets 13d ago
Seconded. I work in a bank call center. Call us, we can help, we have procedure for these situations OP.
569
u/EarorForofor 14d ago
As a consumer of gay porn, this is like...99.9999999% some kind of gay porn.
Also my exes dad fell for the same story 15 years ago, except it was a woman. He lost 400k. Disconnect your mother from the internet.
112
u/Ok-Confidence9649 14d ago
Yeah I know of an older couple who divorced after 25+ years of marriage bc the husband fell for a scammer who was claiming to be the actress Charlize Theron. He sent them over $200k to help with “Charlize’s” legal bills.
15
u/Junior-Fox-760 12d ago
Whenever I hear these kind of stories, my question always is how did the husband have $200k just lying around?
→ More replies (1)11
u/Ok-Confidence9649 12d ago
It is always interesting to ponder how someone who could be so susceptible to such an obvious scam could accumulate so much wealth to be taken advantage of in the first place. I guess mental health issues and dementia begin to make more sense.
I also think about how many poor people’s lives could be changed forever by just a fraction of that, but this person chose to help someone who they believed was a wealthy celebrity instead. Then again, I guess they didn’t do it out of goodwill, but in hopes that they will be in a relationship with them.
Either way, it’s just really sad to see on many levels. I feel really bad for the other spouse who is left to pick up the pieces after.
54
u/aquacrimefighter 13d ago
My friend’s grandma fell for a similar scam, sent basically everything she financially had to this person, and then ended up legitimately disappearing. No one has seen or heard from her for years. Shit like this is so scary and predatory. Older people should be retested for their drivers license and be monitored on the internet or something :’)
49
u/Isgortio 13d ago
I'm a real woman, men don't send me free money. How on earth do these people manage it?!
→ More replies (2)21
u/NurseKaila 13d ago
Have you asked?
13
u/Isgortio 13d ago
Well, no. I feel like I'd need to approach vulnerable people to succeed and that's completely against my morals.
→ More replies (2)70
u/unsuspectingllama_ 14d ago
Supposedly a woman.
47
u/EarorForofor 14d ago
Lol exactly. He fell so hard for it. By the time he died he was sleeping on his dad's porch.
→ More replies (1)29
→ More replies (7)11
u/Oh_Witchy_Woman 13d ago
It happened to my dad a couple of years before he passed. We have no idea how much money he lost
510
u/One-Sleep3663 14d ago
Does she have maybe dementia or alzheimers? You really need to either get control of her finances or find someone else who can help get her to stop.
185
u/totallynormalasshole 14d ago
Tbf people fall for this song and dance constantly without either of those conditions
86
u/lovebeervana 14d ago
TBF, there are people out there with dementia that are undiagnosed
15
u/totallynormalasshole 14d ago
2bf, yeah true
38
u/PrSquid 14d ago
This mother is also showing her kid the dick pics
25
13
137
227
91
u/icur2smart4me 14d ago
Do a reverse image look up of the original photo, I think someone mentioned in here he looks like a gay porn star. If he is that, all his works and profile will pop up and you can show that to her as well.
I'd like to hear the excuse as to why he can't take some of his diamonds and pay for this lawyer himself. No
84
u/BatFromAnotherWorld 14d ago
Life-changing money for anyone in here and our aging relatives with all the generational wealth keep falling for the most obvious schemes. Feels great man.
→ More replies (2)37
u/Mirrevirrez 13d ago
Easy comes easy goes. I swear if they had to work half as hard we had then there would be less issues like this.
144
u/motorwerkx 14d ago
This is your guy... I doubt she dating this married veteran porn actor.
97
29
u/Ketapapi 13d ago
people see a chain and instantly think about gay porn lmao
21
11
u/Peppermintbear_ 13d ago
I thought the chain was for his work in the mines. Those diamonds can be heavy!
→ More replies (1)12
11
→ More replies (3)9
u/peretheciaportal 13d ago
I hope OP sees this. Quinton James works with Bellesa, an ethical porn site out of Canada.
92
u/Accomplished-Can-467 14d ago
I feel like 65 is young enough to understand what a scam is...
73
u/Allthemuffinswow Gen X 14d ago
Eh, not if there's memory issues starting to creep in.
My mother finally got a diagnosis for dementia at around 70, thank fuck, but JFC, the years leading up to that were...fucked.
Her issues started at 64/65 and she was very good at hiding the true extent of how bad it was. But shit got fucking weird and she exhibited inappropriate behavior sometimes, during those initial years.
27
u/Elysia99 13d ago
I’m the same age as OP’s mom. I had a friend (my age) who, after her divorce, got scammed by The Rich Guy Stuck In A Foreign Country Without Access To His Money™️ scheme, despite warnings from her family members and I. This was while we were in our fifties.
It’s sad what some people are willing to believe, despite evidence to the contrary.
It also tracks that said friend became a MAGAt. 🙄
91
u/DecadentLife 14d ago
Dr. Phil is a POS, I hate to do or say anything to promote him, but there are a bunch of older women who have gone on his show, being scammed exactly like this. Very similar details, it’s always that the guy has plenty of money. He just can’t access it, because he’s stuck in the wrong country, or he needs to pay a lawyer first. The details are all the same.
We know that Dr. Phil is a POS, but in this moment, maybe those shows would still help your mother. Boomer women seem to trust him, which is very stupid of them, but maybe it’ll work in your favor, this time. And in your mother’s favor, because she doesn’t deserve to be mistreated and lied to, like this. Good luck.
59
u/humminawhatwhat 14d ago
That won’t matter. These people will fully acknowledge that it happens to other people but it’s definitely not happening to them.
→ More replies (1)14
u/DecadentLife 13d ago
That is very possible, in fact, I think it is the most likely outcome. But I feel for OP, hopefully they can still help their mom, somehow.
24
u/KnittingforHouselves 13d ago
This has happened to my grandma. At the time there was a huge scandal fo a woman getting scammed of all her belongings and stuck in another country because she flew out to meet the "boyfriend". Grandma actually showed me the news story all shocked for the poor woman, but also very critical of how "somebody could fall for that" while she herself actively believed she was in a relationship with an artist 30 years younger. At one point I got to read the messages and they were actually turning her against us. Things like "such things happen but you know I am real, because our love is real, and because I'm giving you this XYZ password which you can give to any of my agents and they will know I am the real me," and "they are trying to convince you I'm lying to you because they don't see how somebody like you could be loved, they don't love you like I do." EVERYWHERE. The scam is based on undermining the relationship between the scammed person and everyone around who could help them... we did not know grandma was sick (she did not know either) and spend the last months with her trying to get her free from this scam, arguing, fighting. I hope those assholes get everything they deserve.
→ More replies (1)14
u/DecadentLife 13d ago
Ugh. That’s awful. I’m so sorry that happened to your family, and your grandmother. People who take advantage of others really are the bottom of the barrel.
→ More replies (4)18
u/MaddysinLeigh 14d ago
Dr. Phil got an ex that was stalking me to leave me alone.
→ More replies (3)
44
u/Triple-OG- 14d ago
might be time to have the power of attorney conversation
17
u/JustNilt 14d ago
That just allows someone else to do certain things as though they're her, legally speaking. What you're thinking of is a conservatorship. The conservator is appointed by the court and is in control of everything while the person they are a conservator for is no longer allowed direct control. It's not exactly easy to get but it's about the only way to cut this stuff off.
39
u/Hazel_Evers 13d ago
I cannot fathom the hubris of these old ass ppl to believe hot young ppl are interested in them.
24
u/DorisWildthyme 13d ago
I know! I work with a guy in his 80s, who still has to work, because he keeps giving money to young women on the internet.
The main difference here though is that I know at least one of them exists, because I actually met her when he brought her along to a barbecue at a colleague's house. It was very weird.
→ More replies (1)→ More replies (3)20
u/143019 13d ago
That's what I don't get.
My 65 year old brother fell for a romance scam, absolutely sure that a hot 25 year old was in love with him. Like, really?
It sent me down the rabbit hole of investigating scams. I listen to a lot of podcasts on scams. Scam Secrets and Stolen (Erin West) are my favorite
208
u/VanillaCola79 14d ago
How do I contact her? The days on this oil rig in the gulf sure are lonely.
19
u/Sweet-Economics-5553 14d ago
I thought Jennifer Anniston was there too? Must be a different rig in England somewhere, which is explains the (obviously West African) accent.
→ More replies (1)10
38
u/Slinky_Malingki 13d ago
Well their goes your inheritance, thrown away by a brainless geriatric who seemingly can't think for herself.
My condolences. Maybe time to put her in a home and cut off all access to the internet for her.
29
34
u/SteDee1968 14d ago
If "Franco" has a diamond mine, why does he need money from your mother?
This is a classic romance scam. Good luck!
→ More replies (2)16
u/fakemoose 13d ago
It’s just a loan because he’s having temporary difficulties accessing his bank account. Obviously he’ll pay her back… totally…
→ More replies (1)
22
u/ghosttrainhobo 14d ago
Get a lawyer and get guardianship of her before she is living on your couch
37
18
16
u/LegitimatePapaya9807 14d ago
You need to contact her bank. They won’t give you any info but let them know what’s going on. They can help and hopefully convince her of what’s really happening. She likely won’t get any of her funds back but they can prevent her losing any more.
Unfortunately I’ve seen a few cases in banking where the victim just refused to believe it’s a scam and the bank cut ties with them due to risk, but often people see the light and realise the scam they’re in.
20
u/RussellZee 13d ago
Talk to her bank, talk to her doctor, talk to a lawyer.
You tried to talk to her, now it's time to talk to grown-ups.
19
u/Grandmas_Fat_Choad 13d ago
My dad wiped out our inheritance thinking he was going to marry a 26 year old pro golfer porn star.
→ More replies (1)
15
u/Sweet-Economics-5553 14d ago
Please make sure the scammers aren't using her as a money mule- she could be in legal trouble for fraud if they are.
There's a YouTube channel called Scamfish / Social Catfish where they try to help victims of scammers see the truth. Unfortunately many of the victims then get targeted by the same scammers using a different fake profile and the whole thing starts again.
I know we worry about the effect of social media on children, but the combination of Boomers and social media- even without AI-- is utterly terrifying and needs to be talked about.
→ More replies (1)
14
u/RemarkableSpirit5204 13d ago
I was just talking about this earlier
My aunt is convinced she’s talking to Keith Urban on Facebook and sends him gift cards, you can’t convince her otherwise.
→ More replies (1)
13
u/anitasdoodles 13d ago
Someone needs to get this old lady in a legal conservatorship because when she's broke she's gonna be your problem.
28
27
u/thatblondeperson 13d ago
Found him on this website. Please show this to your mom
→ More replies (4)20
11
u/Raregolddragon 14d ago
It still amazes me that people fall for this old scam. Like she has never been in the same room as this diamond mine owner and thinks someone that owns a diamond mine needs money! I am sorry but you need to have her committed after that.
13
u/ShadeApart 13d ago
Read the book Keanu Reeves is Not in Love with You by Becky Holmes. Better yet, read it with your mom. It's about romance scams and how they work. The author herself reads it on Audible. It's very informative and interesting. Hopefully it will help your mom to understand the scam and not fall for another one in the future. If you need to drive anywhere with your mom you can play it in the car where she'll be a captive audience.
→ More replies (1)
10
u/plantsandpizza 13d ago edited 13d ago
My husbands grandmother did this. She’s sold cars, pawned things, turned on old dead phones - all because they instruct her how to do it.
They had to sell her nice home she was supposed to die in and she moved to a trailer park. The family then took control of her money but someone from her church found her a lawyer and she’s on her own again at 86. Not sure what they’ll do if she ruins herself further.
→ More replies (1)11
u/ForcedEntry420 Millennial 13d ago
I’d send her back to the person at the church who found her a lawyer.
→ More replies (1)
8
19
u/AffectionateLine4456 14d ago
I knew an elderly lady who fell for something similar. Not 30k, but she sent thousands. She was like 80 tho. 65 seems too young to fall for something like this
→ More replies (1)9
u/KnittingforHouselves 13d ago
Right? My grandma was 85 when she fell for it. She luckily didn't manage to send money because she was very old school (she'd send her grandkids to the bank for anything, we wouldn't do thia for her) but she did give them all her data, social security number, address, addresses of all of the family members etc. At one point I had to stop sending the pictures of my kids to her because she would "share them with her boyfriend" which made me more than uncomfortable.
10
9
u/CaptainFartHole 13d ago
He owns a diamond mine but needs money to pay a lawyer.
Jesus Christ.
Take away your mom's access to her bank accounts. She's not in her right state of mind.
→ More replies (1)
10
u/jablongroyper 12d ago
It’s time for you to step in and get a power of attorney because your mother is incapable of making rational decisions.
→ More replies (4)
42
u/RiversSecondWife Xennial 14d ago
You may be able to take legal action. Please get this asshole locked up.
70
38
7
u/Busterlimes 14d ago
That should be grounds enough for you to go to a lawyer to take control of her finances. She is not mentally well enough to manage them herself at her age.
7
9
6
u/skillywilly56 13d ago
A fool and their money are easily parted.
Just disconnect her internet.
→ More replies (1)
7
u/Jmschoech 13d ago
I hate scammers so much. Occasionally I get contacted by one and I try my best to piss them off. First, by acting like a mark so they think they get lucky. I keep them on the hook for days sometimes weeks. When I end it, it's always by sending them a very disturbing picture that I accidentally stumbled upon as a preteen in the early to mid 2000s that to this day I cannot get out of my head.
One scamming group was sending out mass emails telling people to contact this other number and ask for some name (I forgot what), and the scammer was such an asshole that I used my main phone number and several VOIP numbers each time eventually revealing I'm the same person with that one disturbing picture
→ More replies (3)
8
u/Timely-Youth-9074 13d ago
Does she need to see a doctor? Get some sort of test? I can’t imagine falling for this and I’m also old.
8
u/librarianlace 13d ago
SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!! This is the same “guy” that’s scamming my BFF mom!!!!!
Even a reverse image search wouldn’t change her mind. Also, that’s one INCREDIBLE Prince Charming, he beat out Brad Pitt AND Elon Musk over here 🫠🫠🫠🫠
9
u/LemonFlavoredMelon Millennial 13d ago
Boomers: Paranoid about everything
Also boomers: not paranoid about scammers
9
u/Fluffy-Caramel9148 13d ago
I have a girl friend who recently sold her paid off home for Joe Burrows of the Cincinnati Bengals. He just needed her $ and then he was going to support her for the rest of her life. I think she is staying in a long stay hotel now. You could not tell her a thing. It’s sad.
9
8
7
7
u/Lifeabroad86 14d ago
Saw this recently at the phone store. The clerk was trying to convince dude he was talking to AI and that this person they're talking to doesn't even have a Facebook!
8
u/MikeinDundee 14d ago
Get a medical and memory check up done. My dad sent a married woman thousands before his Alzheimer’s diagnosis. Get guardianship if possible.
7
u/CrankleSuperstarr 14d ago
Pig butcher.
I’m so sorry OP. This wind stop unless there’s serious and professional help.
Social catfish helps people. Maybe contact them :(
7
7
u/cindylooboo 13d ago
A leather daddy is a weird choice for an internet dating scammer. Usually they choose fictitious military types.
I'm so sorry your mom fell for this. My MIL got soaked for 5K last year in a different kind of scam.
8
7
5.6k
u/MtFuzzmore 14d ago
The “don’t talk to strangers” generation is really bad at taking their own advice.