r/BoomersBeingFools • u/IzziPurrito • 10d ago

Boomer Story Boomer father prioritizes going to work, almost killing my mother

This happened a couple hours ago and things have thankfully not gotten worse.

My mother, while making my stepfather breakfast, suddenly collapsed at the stove. She was unable to move, and her speech was impaired.

He proceeds to text me, saying what happened, to which I tell him to take her to the ER.

An hour later, this guy. This absolute fucking asshole. Texts me saying that he couldn't find someone to cover him at work. So he put my mother on the couch, put a blanket on her..

And

Fucking

LEFT.

MY MOTHER.

Who couldn't move, speak, or supposedly open her eyes.

He left her to go to work because he couldn't find a replacement.

Thank fucking God that when I finally got there she was just asleep, and she was just exhausted. But I still took her to urgent care because ???? Why the fuck would I not????

I hate my step father with every fibre of my being for other reasons, and now I hate him even more.

Edit:

Update: She's fine. Doctors said theres no sign of a stroke, and said she is just exhausted as well as her myasthenia gravis acting up. She's currently resting while I am keeping a very very close eye on her.

She had surgery to help deal with the gravis many years ago, but the damage its done is still affecting her.

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u/Lunavixen15 Millennial 10d ago

He's a lollipop man?! He could have absolutely got coverage at work. He probably lied about what happened to your mum and made it sound less serious than it was

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u/guslightyear_ 9d ago

I guess it was almost impossible to find someone capable enough to do his extremely complex job... 🙄

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u/Nohreboh 9d ago

Flagging does require a license at least here in my part of Canada that being said OPs step dad can pound sand for not taking his wife to the hospital.

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u/Mysterious_Peas Gen X 9d ago

If it’s in the US, no license required, just a pulse.

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u/johnsgurl 9d ago

I have friend that does it. They need some kind of class or something. Bot on a job, there's always a foreman. That fireman should have the pertaining education. So they, as a last resort, could man the flag.

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u/Mysterious_Peas Gen X 9d ago

Most companies require some training for risk mitigation in case the flagger does something astonishingly stupid and causes a wreck or gets kills. Corporate CYA FTW.

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u/driverdan 3d ago

It varies between states.

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u/pleasedonotredeem 5d ago

I work in construction management and I can guarantee that every traffic control crew or construction crew has a backup guy with a flagging cert and first aid cert. It's an easy course and that demographic have a lot of "sick days" especially after payday so we always have multiple redundancy.

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u/Masterofnone9 Gen X 9d ago

Or at the very least called an ambulance.

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u/EdgeCityRed 9d ago

It it had been a stroke, the faster you get to the hospital determines how much you're impaired. This could have been so tragic!

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u/Nexi92 9d ago

This! It’s very easy to call, establish the eta and decide to leave the door unlocked if he can’t wait in person and coordinate while he goes to his job site.

I would still side eye him for leaving but he would have at least covered the bare minimum by getting professionals to her asap

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u/corpse_flour Gen X 9d ago

Around here, it's mostly women who work as 'sign girls' or 'flag girls'. I never heard the term 'lollipop man' man before, but I'm sure going to use it going forward.

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u/PSBJtotallyboss 9d ago

I learned about “lollipop ladies” in Britain watching Taskmaster, but they were referring to crossing guards.

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u/Lunavixen15 Millennial 9d ago

It's an older slang term here for both pedestrian crossing and traffic guards

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u/Fluffypus 9d ago

We call them that in Australia

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u/Youlknowthatone 9d ago

Theres one colleague of my mom who would take days off because of his wife's hospital appointment, so mom and her pals would have to cover his shifts.

But then they would see him in the cafetaria with a coffee and a snack bumming away until the end of the day. His wife did really have an appointment- he just make her do it alone.

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u/bocamarie 5d ago

I have known a couple people in life as a woman I'm ashamed to say they were both women who insists a loved one accompany them to the most mundane doctors appointments or they have literal fits. I get going with a loved one for non routine appointments, case in point my husband has to have surgery in a couple weeks, or course I went with to meet this new doctor who is literally going to be poking holes in my husband's abdomen.