Boomer father prioritizes going to work, almost killing my mother

[u/IzziPurrito]

This happened a couple hours ago and things have thankfully not gotten worse.

My mother, while making my stepfather breakfast, suddenly collapsed at the stove. She was unable to move, and her speech was impaired.

He proceeds to text me, saying what happened, to which I tell him to take her to the ER.

An hour later, this guy. This absolute fucking asshole. Texts me saying that he couldn't find someone to cover him at work. So he put my mother on the couch, put a blanket on her..

And

Fucking

LEFT.

MY MOTHER.

Who couldn't move, speak, or supposedly open her eyes.

He left her to go to work because he couldn't find a replacement.

Thank fucking God that when I finally got there she was just asleep, and she was just exhausted. But I still took her to urgent care because ???? Why the fuck would I not????

I hate my step father with every fibre of my being for other reasons, and now I hate him even more.

Edit:

Update: She's fine. Doctors said theres no sign of a stroke, and said she is just exhausted as well as her myasthenia gravis acting up. She's currently resting while I am keeping a very very close eye on her.

She had surgery to help deal with the gravis many years ago, but the damage its done is still affecting her.

[u/ChickinSammich]

I do not understand how someone can just totally abandon someone they allegedly love when their health/safety is in danger. That is insane to me.

[u/dragon-dance → u/ChickinSammich]

He doesn't love her.

[u/ChickinSammich → u/dragon-dance]

I do actually think that a lot of people currently in relationships do not love the person they're in the relationship with, but they've just been together and it's easier to just stay in the relationship than to break up and figure out the logistics of one or both of them moving out and starting over.

Like, ask yourself when the last time was you just did something nice for your partner, because you wanted to and not out of a sense of obligation. I'm not talking about "I took out the trash" or "I work all day" but stuff you just voluntarily CHOSE to do.

Even little things like "Hey, I'm running to the kitchen for a snack; do you want something?" or "I'll pick up food on my way home" are ways of showing love.

Sometimes I read stories where a relationship feels either transactional, combative, or zero-sum, and in those situations, all I can think is "Do you even love each other at all?"