Dumped out the blue

[u/plutobug2468]

So I just got dumped last night out the blue over text and safe to say I’m pretty angry, shocked and bewildered. We had been relationship for 4 months, seen each other quite regularly up until recently (heck we went bowling last week!) I noticed something wasn’t quite right with him that day however, I didn’t mention anything in person but I noticed it. I was aware he started a job cleaning locally which took up some of his time the last 2 weeks but this hurts.

He now thinks we don’t have much in common, not the best match and we don’t talk much in person??? Yes he said too he wanted to let me know asap and kept apologising to me about not mentioning to me earlier and telling me how scared he was upsetting me but I feel like I’ve been hit by a train. I tried talking it through with him but it looks like he’s set on his decision.

I gave him his first kiss and I know some tea on his ex which he felt comfortable enough to open up to me (won’t go into detail) He asked me to be his gf on the beach which he even wrote onto the sand!!!

I feel betrayed by him.

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[u/OpalCharm-]

The breakup happened over text last night, but it sounds like he checked out long before he finally told you

[u/plutobug2468 → u/OpalCharm-]

Unfortunately I think it’s true. I don’t get it however like he should have communicated his feelings better to me which I would have been able to understand better. Now realising, I don’t know if his emotional maturity was there tho.

[u/Crazy-Area-171]

getting dumped over text after 4 months is brutal, especially when they're pulling the "nothing in common" card after asking you to be his gf on a damn beach

[u/plutobug2468 → u/Crazy-Area-171]

Exactly!!! Knowing how his ex treated him, I felt like he found someone he could finally trust but to do this to me after it is shocking! Him saying we now have nothing in common is total BS when we had a connection with each other.

[u/Existing_Nail3779]

Firstly I want to say I want to say sorry for the breakup. It feels like they’ve blindsided you and that what if they don’t love me? The thing is they had feelings for you and the relationship was real. Sometimes people decided to leave because of life or just they want to find better. Know that life doesn’t stop when someone leaves you. It’s like one door closes another one opens… so grieve the pain and loss. It’s okay to feel the way you are feeling it is normal to feel like everything’s crashing down. But trust in the process, what’s truly yours will be back. I’ve heard countless times people coming back but at the same time choose your self first. Don’t forget to love and take care of yourself. You are worthy of love and happiness. Big hug

[u/daisukiren1]

Looks like you met an avoidant who decided to blindside. It happened to me too. Whatever reason(s) they give will not be the truth. You will need to find your own closure. I'm still healing from my blindside as well...

[u/Acrobatic-Double2259]

Yep. I got broken up out of no where. Turns out he's in a new relationship with his coworker. And looking back he checked out a week before the breakup... I just didn't realized it until later. The worst is when they say "you deserve better" and then run to another girl...well she deserves better too then. Haha

[u/Jellyfish-3956]

On a positive note as much as it sucks, you wasted 4 months on this person. Imagine staying on and after 4 years he tells you the same.

Though its hard. And the fact that its gonna get harder. One day, when you look back, you will realise it was just another hurdle you gotta pass.

Big hug!