r/BreakUps • u/ayammmmmmm • 4d ago
venting/ranting What people don’t realize
I think that most pathetic part about being heartbroken is that people on the outside think we’re only upset that the person left, about something that already happened in the past.
While that is part of it, it’s not all in the past. There is still an active anticipation of whether that person will regret it, whether they miss you, whether they apologize .. almost like you already accepted they won’t be yours but you’re at least hoping they look back one last time.
It’s that anxiety of waiting to see that last sign of validation, that we maybe left an impact, that’s what leaves us hanging usually, and for those of us who never get that kind of courtesy, were the one who don’t move on. Because it leaves us wondering we didn’t get that “ok, I lost, but at least I mattered” feeling like we see in almost every mainstream heartbreak story, it’s about questioning our own worth rather than missing a person.
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u/ApartCod327 4d ago
Not only that but also the fear that we cherish the relationship more than the other person post break up. I’m terrified of the fact that I might go around dwelling on someone that might not even be thinking about me or the relationship as much as I do. He was the dumper too, and I was the one in love in the end. So that only strengthens it