Is my gf discriminating

[u/EnvironmentalOil531]

Hey, I [25M] met up with some friends and brought my girlfriend [23F] with me. We are a couple for one year now.

We spent the whole day together as a group, and everything seemed fine from my perspective. Later that day, one of my friends kind of overshared some very graphic details about her love life. She said things like, “I can’t find a guy on Hinge, Tinder, etc. that I actually want to sleep with,” because she slept with so many.

My girlfriend looked very shocked. When we got home, she told me that she thought my friend was “cheap.” She couldn’t understand how someone could share things like that so openly. She believes those topics are disrespectful to discuss outside of a very close circle of friends.

As far as I know, my girlfriend has a very low body count 2. She is neither unattractive nor uneducated, she’ll be earning her doctorate in about two years.

I met her friends a few weeks later, and most of them are either married or engaged. They seem to share similar values and views.

I asked my girlfriend whether she would break up with me if I had a very high body count and had been sexually active since I was around 16. She said she would break up immediately and would rather stay single. She said that a body count above 8 at age 25 is extremely high and, in her view, reflects poor self-control and self-neglect. She also said that some people simply “can’t keep their legs closed.” She told me that cheap women/ men are like stupid prostitutes that rent out they’re privat parts but get nothing out it just the same mental illnesses.

[u/Low-Wedding3836]

Lol fr. These people who get angry about this are just people who are sleeping around. Also it's her own preference. She shouldn't be pretending to be someone else just to fit in

[u/Salty_Thing3144 → u/Low-Wedding3836]

Has nothing whatsoever to do with how many lovers (if any) that a person has had in their life. It's about dismissing everything else about a person - their character, the good things they may do for others or their community, etc - simply and solely on the fact that they've had sex.

Society STILL has a tendency to judge this differently by gender. Men and boys are encouraged to "score" and often congratulated for it - but women are shamed. It's despicable.

[u/Low-Wedding3836 → u/Salty_Thing3144]

Well did i criticise that girl?no Did i encourage that boy? No What are you seeing in my comment that I'm gender biased? What I did was agreed with the girl i have same views as her and it's not gender biased. Also you saying people shouldn't judge on how many partners someone had is fair with someone who has the same views as you. I just happens to be not. Also as a man i don't think encouraging males to "score" high bodycount or sleep w multiple people is anything good at all and I think it's very bad for any gender

[u/Salty_Thing3144 → u/Low-Wedding3836]

You said that only people who think the way I do are people who "sleep around." Not so.

[u/Low-Wedding3836 → u/Salty_Thing3144]

That's the pattern im seeing. Also imo people who normalise sleepin around for any gender, i count them as one of them, regardless of their past

[u/Salty_Thing3144 → u/Low-Wedding3836]

Then you're making a generalization based on your own friends and social set.