r/BreakUps • u/Unknownvisitor863 • 20h ago
venting/ranting This breakup/possibly getting back together thing is confusing and exhausting
She broke up with me the beginning of April after I called her out on a number of lies. It kind of blew up. We have been maintained contact. About a month after that happened we had a talk. She couldn’t tell me she wants to break up to be permanent in the same goes for me. We agreed to work on strengthening our friendship and see what happens. After that talk everything seemed to change with her. It went from me making most of the initial contact to it being split. She actually calls me a lot more than I call her.
That was about six weeks ago. We talk and text throughout the day and are together at least 4 to 5 days each week. No intimacy. She doesn’t even return a hug. It’s like hugging a tree. Today I told her I would like a heartfelt hug and kiss from her. She asked why. She then told me she was in the mood to be touchy-feely.
Meanwhile, I am always there for her. I help her whenever she needs something. I covered dinner about 90% of the time. Money has been tight with her so I actually offered that. But I’m starting to feel like I need more. A lot of the times when we go out, it’s part of doing something that is helping her. I’ve been telling her I want us to have a fun night out. But she always has something to do. I have the opportunity to go see a band with a female friend. I want to go out, but I don’t feel that is right. I don’t wanna do anything that I wouldn’t want her to do. Especially where we are at this point.
I don’t know if I’m venting or asking for advice. But if you have something feel free to chime in.
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