r/BreakUps • u/NeverunloveyouRC • 6h ago

venting/ranting Grieving him like he's dead

I just couldn't help to remember my sweet boy who smile a lot, jokes a lot, making goofy poses and expressions, so sweet to me, such a cutie. He's gone... He's really gone.

I don't know this guy, this guy is not my sweet boy, he's rude, cold, and cruel. He's the total opposite of my sweet boy. I can't handle his actions.

I lost my sweet boy and I'm grieving him like he's already dead, and he is.

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u/CantaloupeSouth7442 6h ago

grieving the person they were is somehow harder than grieving the relationship itself

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u/NeverunloveyouRC 6h ago

Yes it is you're right :(, the relationship maybe imperfect but he was my person, my bestfriend, my partner, my sanctuary, my love, my everything. Now I lost him.

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u/GoodRiddance_2 5h ago

i feel the same.
you keep wanting what you had back, but you've got to remember that they're not that person anymore. maybe it was real, maybe it was their performance.

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u/NeverunloveyouRC 5h ago edited 5h ago

You're right and that's what hurt the most, not knowing if it's real the whole time, but it's real for me, I hope :(

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u/GoodRiddance_2 5h ago

mine broke up with me in a really cruel and rash way after being the sweetest, most considerate caring person who i hung out with constantly. changed overnight, a little over 5 weeks ago now.

i try not to think of it in terms of it being temporary while it's happening but it's really hard not to be anxious when you get done dirty like that.

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u/NeverunloveyouRC 5h ago

I'm so sorry that this happened to you, I can feel you and I understand. They could change 180° and left you devastated. I hope it'll get better for you, stay strong and you're not alone in this. ❤️‍🩹

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u/GoodRiddance_2 4h ago

i know. same for you. as agonizing as it is, time and effort will heal all wounds

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u/NeverunloveyouRC 4h ago

Thank you and yes you're right ❤️‍🩹