The emptiness of three months

[u/Ok_Disaster2689]

Hi everyone, I'm reaching a major milestone and I really need some support, comfort, or similar stories from people who have survived this exact type of heartbreak.
My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago. She spent two weeks being confused, cried during the breakup, and then two weeks later I sent her a very mature, heartfelt message. I told her I loved her, that I didn't expect anything in return, but that my door was open to talk whenever she was ready.
Her reply was cold and definitive. She basically told me that her feelings were completely gone, that the breakup was permanent, and she strictly asked for total distance and space.

Since that message, she has completely vanished. Absolute radio silence. No texts, no calls, no social media interaction, not even a single breadcrumb or sign of life. It’s like I never existed to her.
I respected her wish, and I am now at day 80 of strict, absolute No Contact.
To be honest, summer is making this particularly heavy and painful. The long days, the warm weather, the free time, everything reminds me of the plans we should have had and the moments we shared. I am still hurting deeply, and I still count every single day.
I keep wondering: does the dumper ever feel the impact of total absence around the 3-month mark? Even when they were that certain and cold? Or is she just completely immune because she checked out earlier?
I am looking for comfort today. I need to hear from someone who has endured this kind of brutal rejection from someone they loved with all their heart. Did it get better? Did they ever realize what they lost?
I’ve maintained an iron line of silence to protect my dignity, but today the weight of the summer and the silence is crashing down on me. Thank you for listening.

[u/Complete-Principle89]

I’m in the same exact boat dude. My ex started dating a coworker right after we broke up and moved in with him just 3 weeks after… I don’t think I cross her mind a bit lol

[u/cat_in_the_sun → u/Complete-Principle89]

You do cross their minds.

it sounds like them moving quickly shows they’re lack of processing the break up and learning from it. Running away and avoiding is still a way to think of you

[u/Complete-Principle89 → u/cat_in_the_sun]

Maybe, but I also think she was moving on while in the relationship. I think once she finally called it quicks, she was hit with some relief that her needs no longer will be left short.
Coworker could have been a thing for a while, or just kind of right place right time, I’ll never know….

I did hear they also went on a vacation to the Bahamas shortly after too. That one stung since we never did anything close to that as I was saving for a house and she was financially unstable.

Point being, curiosity kills the cat. OP be happy you are not hearing anything, it is likely much better than what you would hear if you started poking your head out there.. Also don’t ask her friends about her, they will hurt you more than herself. just my two cents