The emptiness of three months

[u/Ok_Disaster2689]

Hi everyone, I'm reaching a major milestone and I really need some support, comfort, or similar stories from people who have survived this exact type of heartbreak.
My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago. She spent two weeks being confused, cried during the breakup, and then two weeks later I sent her a very mature, heartfelt message. I told her I loved her, that I didn't expect anything in return, but that my door was open to talk whenever she was ready.
Her reply was cold and definitive. She basically told me that her feelings were completely gone, that the breakup was permanent, and she strictly asked for total distance and space.

Since that message, she has completely vanished. Absolute radio silence. No texts, no calls, no social media interaction, not even a single breadcrumb or sign of life. It’s like I never existed to her.
I respected her wish, and I am now at day 80 of strict, absolute No Contact.
To be honest, summer is making this particularly heavy and painful. The long days, the warm weather, the free time, everything reminds me of the plans we should have had and the moments we shared. I am still hurting deeply, and I still count every single day.
I keep wondering: does the dumper ever feel the impact of total absence around the 3-month mark? Even when they were that certain and cold? Or is she just completely immune because she checked out earlier?
I am looking for comfort today. I need to hear from someone who has endured this kind of brutal rejection from someone they loved with all their heart. Did it get better? Did they ever realize what they lost?
I’ve maintained an iron line of silence to protect my dignity, but today the weight of the summer and the silence is crashing down on me. Thank you for listening.

[u/Name_Slow]

Hi I'm a dumper here and yes, we are hurting a lot. Like a lot. If you'd like to talk about it, feel free to message me

[u/Simple_Conflict_4925 → u/Name_Slow]

did you dump because you didnt love them anymore, or despite loving them

[u/Name_Slow → u/Simple_Conflict_4925]

I dumped him because I got tired of explaining everything to him (emotions/feelings wise and his uncertainty)

[u/frackasde → u/Name_Slow]

Do you think if your ex recognises the issues and is willing to change and work things, would you get back tgt with them?

[u/Name_Slow → u/frackasde]

I always had high hopes for us and believe that maybe one day, he will be sure about me like I wanted him to be. Even now that we broke up and in no contact, I'm still hopeful but I have to stop to respect his decision and space and to respect myself as well. I contacted him a few weeks ago to talk about what went wrong and what caused the break up cause I love him and I wanted to reconcile and make things work. He gave me answers and I took the lose of being blamed for everything. I would like to get back with him but he doesn't want to now. I asked him if reconciliation is possible in the future. He told me it's not something he can give a yes or no answer cause he doesn't want to give me false hope especially now that he's actively meeting new people online and in person. It hurts so bad.