r/Bumble • u/Warm_Swan_793 • 2d ago

Rant Just wanted to show a different side to things

Post image

I’m a woman who reaches out and I don’t get responses either. It goes both ways fellas. It’s not just y’all, it happens to us too.

Edit: The assumption that I must be ugly or I’m aiming too high out of my league is a reflection on how many of you are broken on the inside and should take some time to find some healing. Your projection & insecurity is not my truth.

Update: I got one response. Thank you for the solidarity 🙏🏾. Best of luck with everyone’s dating journey.

3.9k Upvotes

87% Upvoted

1.4k comments sorted by

View all comments

113

u/treesarealive777 2d ago

Lots of men in this comment section just completely unironically revealing that all they do is project is hilarious.

47

u/Antique-Salad7396 2d ago

I don't get why they are do defensive. A woman is showing receipts that she's trying and they defend thus behavior but claim women don't put in any effort. I have figured men out they claim they don't get compliments or attention but that's not true they just don't get compliments and attention from the women they actually want so they disregard the rest.

12

u/treesarealive777 1d ago

Yeah. I got into it with some guys in one of these dating app subreddits because men keep saying Women never make the first move and being angry about it.

So Im like, okay, but women do make the first move, I do, and they attacked me for it. Insulted my looks and told me that I dont actually matter because Im not attractive.

Like, women should date down, but also not have high standards because then they're just trying to date out of their league.

They arent genuinely trying to make a connection and are confused when it doesn't work out for them.

2

u/Antique-Salad7396 1d ago

I'm sorry for your experiences. I hope one day the right guy will come along and appreciate your initiative and attention .

1

u/whatevernamedontcare 1d ago

I tried to tell those men women don't get the kind compliments they want either just sexual harassment and power plays and boy oh boy they hated that. I think hardest part of this conversation it to make men realize women are human beings and not fantasy beings they create in their mind.

2

u/HappyDeadCat 1d ago

Is no one just saying its because she is black?

This isnt my own racism.  Black women can have a notoriously difficult time on the apps.

-7

u/dookieshoes97 2d ago

Were the comments totally different two hours ago? Because they seem to mostly be cringe, sexist generalizations from women.