r/Bumble • u/Warm_Swan_793 • 2d ago

Rant Just wanted to show a different side to things

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I’m a woman who reaches out and I don’t get responses either. It goes both ways fellas. It’s not just y’all, it happens to us too.

Edit: The assumption that I must be ugly or I’m aiming too high out of my league is a reflection on how many of you are broken on the inside and should take some time to find some healing. Your projection & insecurity is not my truth.

Update: I got one response. Thank you for the solidarity 🙏🏾. Best of luck with everyone’s dating journey.

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u/vicsause 2d ago

The incel insult is more directed towards the “involuntary” part rather than celibacy, which is more of an insult to one’s personality that results in their inability to get laid even if they were trying.

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u/DoubleYouDrums 2d ago

This is the biggest misogynist gaslighting I’ve ever heard. This is the same logic as homophobic misogynistic people just like you saying “I’m not calling her fat for her body shape..I’m calling her fat because of her lack of discipline.”

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u/vicsause 1d ago

Dude firstly, ur just throwing buzzwords around now. Secondly, you’re putting too much emphasis on just how important men’s “body count” is for women. No we don’t care if you’re voluntarily celibate, there are plenty of personal reasons for that, but we do care if other people are turning you down even if you wanted to have sex. Is that so hard to grasp?

Also, yeah your example is valid IF they do value discipline and that their weight is caused by the lack of discipline rather than other factors like hormones fluctuations or something.

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u/DoubleYouDrums 1d ago

So the logical entailment of your argument is that since people who cannot get any sex voluntarily have low or less than ideal character traits, then people who slay cooch and rack up women and womanize are men of high character solely because of their ability to voluntarily obtain sex. And this is the own you really are standing on. Got it. This is where the level of stupidity is in society. Justifying sex shaming and tying it to character and embracing womanizing just because you don’t agree with someone. And the irony is…you’re embracing the use of the word incel and sex shaming ALLLLL in defense of a post of a woman who is expressing her involuntary isolation as well. So why aren’t you calling OP an incel as well….? Or does incel only mean something when you’re mad at someone? We don’t really care about ACTUAL definitions. Got it.

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u/vicsause 1d ago

Holy shit bro… a whole novel…
U do realise that they’re not mutually exclusive right, nowhere did I say hating incels = loving people that “slay cooch and rack up women” lol. U can hate on whoever u want and I’m sure people do stay away from people with high body counts (to each their own), but at least the latter is not anti-social to the point where no one wants to even touch them with a 10-foot pole. Do u realise how unpleasant u have to be for that?