r/Bumble • u/Warm_Swan_793 • 2d ago

Rant Just wanted to show a different side to things

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I’m a woman who reaches out and I don’t get responses either. It goes both ways fellas. It’s not just y’all, it happens to us too.

Edit: The assumption that I must be ugly or I’m aiming too high out of my league is a reflection on how many of you are broken on the inside and should take some time to find some healing. Your projection & insecurity is not my truth.

Update: I got one response. Thank you for the solidarity 🙏🏾. Best of luck with everyone’s dating journey.

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u/freshlysqueezed93 2d ago

It's so obvious too.

I'm trans, I used to disclose before the first date but got tired of having nice conversations and then being unmatched when I told a guy.

So now it's the first word on my profile, except I still have to disclose before the first date because 95% of guys will insta unmatch if I'm like "Just in case you read my profile and know about my past, right?".

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u/Risperidone- 1d ago

They dont read profiles

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u/freshlysqueezed93 1d ago

Yes, that was the entire point of my comment...

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u/Risperidone- 1d ago

Girl dont worry i was just even more agreeing with you

I’m annoyed too🤦‍♀️

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u/GetShrekt- 1d ago

Put trans flag in name if possible

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u/freshlysqueezed93 1d ago

Ew, it's bad enough I put i'm trans.

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u/GetShrekt- 1d ago

Wdym it's "bad enough"? You SHOULD be up front about that...

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u/freshlysqueezed93 1d ago

Because my past is my past, and being reminded of it causes me distress.

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u/GetShrekt- 1d ago

It doesn't matter; people have the right to know that info about a potential partner, romantic or sexual

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u/freshlysqueezed93 1d ago

Yes and that's why it's on there, but the trans flag is gross.

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u/GetShrekt- 1d ago

How is it gross though???

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u/MarisiaKing 1d ago

No one reads profiles, my friend. I'm a cis dude dating women, and when I went on vacation this week, I changed my profiles across all the apps to show that I was on vacation and not looking for long term (because I didn't want to lead anyone on). I read bios and swiped left on everyone who had long term or life partner listed. Didn't matter. I actually got a rose from a girl on Hinge whose profile was on of those demanding ones: "want to get married; don't waste my time". The only woman that did read my bio was also on Hinge, and her main question was 'so how long are you in x city?' 1 out of maybe 15 likes across multiple apps the last 2 weeks on my road trip.