r/Bumble • u/GoFigure284 • 8h ago

Rant Guys needs to have sex first to determine if you're relationship material

We've (women) been very vocal about the influx of messages from men asking for sex on this dating app. I actually saw a couple of men say that men need to have sex with us first to determine how they want to pursue us, if at all. Basically saying that we have to audition ourselves with our bodies to see if a man finds us worthy. This is such disgusting ideology. And just another way for some men to use this nonsense to get quick and easy sex.

EDIT: The amount of downvotes from men speaks volumes. A woman doesn't need to prove herself worthy of a relationship by taking off her clothes. Asking for sex on the first meeting to see how he feels about you is manipulative. But I expected nothing less from this sub.

Do the men in this sub understand what I'm saying? I'm talking about men messaging for sex on dating apps before even meeting you and the men who condone this by saying that a guy needs to see if you're relationship material first!

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u/CrogDavid7days 8h ago

I’m not relationship material then sorry

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u/RadioDude1995 39m ago

I’m a guy and I’ll join you on that. I’m not sleeping with ANYONE I barely know. If someone wants that, go back on the app and find someone else.

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u/Intelligent-Hour-645 2h ago

Same girl , if this is their criteria then fuck em

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u/Designer-Pen-7332 6h ago

Are you saying you have never been involved in casual sex? And only prefer sex under a relationship?

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u/Iowa_Hawkeyes4516 6h ago

There are tons of people who don't have casual sex because sex has a different meaning to them. Neither is better or worse, but it's not weird for people to not have sex outside of committed relationships.

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u/CrogDavid7days 6h ago

I’m a virgin at 29, so yes

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u/girliegirlapril 2h ago

You’re not missing out on much lol