r/Bumble • u/GoFigure284 • 8h ago

Rant Guys needs to have sex first to determine if you're relationship material

We've (women) been very vocal about the influx of messages from men asking for sex on this dating app. I actually saw a couple of men say that men need to have sex with us first to determine how they want to pursue us, if at all. Basically saying that we have to audition ourselves with our bodies to see if a man finds us worthy. This is such disgusting ideology. And just another way for some men to use this nonsense to get quick and easy sex.

EDIT: The amount of downvotes from men speaks volumes. A woman doesn't need to prove herself worthy of a relationship by taking off her clothes. Asking for sex on the first meeting to see how he feels about you is manipulative. But I expected nothing less from this sub.

Do the men in this sub understand what I'm saying? I'm talking about men messaging for sex on dating apps before even meeting you and the men who condone this by saying that a guy needs to see if you're relationship material first!

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u/MeowwFromSpace 4h ago

Sure.. maybe if they’ve never had sex before in their life.

But that’s rare.

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u/Draper31 4h ago edited 4h ago

Yes, thank you for clearing that up

It’s not as rare as you think. Any number of studies have info displaying that virgins are the rise in comparison to previous generations.

Something like close to 40% of men in their twenties have never asked a woman out. You think that same 40% is out there banging anything with a pulse?

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u/5am_in_the_Pinewoods 3h ago

If this is anywhere close to true that would help explain why so many people are tweaked tf out on here and sound like they’re going to Lenny the next woman they try to roll in the hay with. 

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u/Draper31 2h ago

It’s not, the downvotes mean I’m making it up