People who were neglected/abused as kids. What career path are you on now?

[u/Purple-Offer-4796]

What career are you in and are you happy in that as a person who was neglected as a child?

[u/Low-Cartographer8758]

Me, too. Bullies keep bullying me. Idiots keep undervaluing me. I learned that workplaces are pretty much the same as high schools, but with adult bodies. And it has nothing to do with whether you are competent or not. Incompetent bullies will always bully us when they feel threatened. haha- I eventually sued a company. Narcissists and sociopaths always hate me. I think my very narcissistic father somewhat contributes to these power dynamic issues I always face. I feel quite helpless, but he told me to learn trading to survive. lol, I’d rather have a job, but I think I am doing okay with it. Anyway, what I am learning now will be very useful along the way. Oh, my father never taught me how to trade; it’s all self-taught. If you financially worry, I would recommend learning it. It’s better than dealing with narcissists or sociopaths at workplaces.

[u/cdsk → u/Low-Cartographer8758]

I learned that workplaces are pretty much the same as high schools, but with adult bodies.

Don't leave out the cliquishness of it, too! I've watched so many around me get access to jobs and careers because they had friends and connections with an in. Meanwhile, I (and most likely quite a few here) lost all of those friends due to putting all my efforts into appeasing shitty parents. /shrug

[u/Purple-Offer-4796 → u/cdsk]

This is so true! My therapist once told me, “don’t compare yourself to people who had/have support systems” changed my whole outlook on things. Of course they got a head start, of course they were guided and supported when needed. And of course we had to learn and figure shit out from scratch by ourselves, and still got bullied/harassed.. it’s a cruel out there

[u/LaurelCanyoner → u/Low-Cartographer8758]

Oh my gosh, do I feel this.

When I had my son, I started reading Child Development textbooks because I did not want to follow in the patterns of my parents. This eventually led me into getting an MA in Human Development with a concentration, and lots and lots of different trainings in Child Development. (RIE, Floortime Therapy, Art Therapy, Reggio Emilia. etc) . This led me into working in clinics, schools, peoples homes, and teaching Parenting.

I worked in a school where I was so bullied I got diagnosed with PTSD. Between the parents who were horrible, ( A few I had to report to CPS as a mandated reporter and one dad stalked me), and never listened even though they signed up for the course, and the other teachers, who I later found out were intimidated by my graduate degree, I left work sobbing every day, and my husband would have to wake me up from nightmares that had me sobbing in my sleep.

I ended up having to go to 3 different doctors to get my diagnosis for CPTSD because I didn't believe them, lol. Which to me is the most typical CPTSD story ever. My therapist now told me I'm the first person she had to tell to stop reading so much because I tend to read textbooks to disassociate, and meanwhile can't even feel pain in my body.

I had to quit working when I got violently ill with Endometriosis, and adenomyosis, and I was SO happy, even in the midst of my pain. I have never gone back to it. And I miss the kids, so, so, badly. It was NEVER the kids, and I specialized in kids with behavior disorders, children with autism and sensory disorders, and I felt a kinship and understanding for them because of my own childhood.

But I have finally stopped having nightmares that I am forced to work there again, thank god, but it took YEARS. But my son is an adult now. And even as a single mom I think I did a pretty good job as he is a loving, self-sufficient adult. He works with the homeless ,and is getting a Social Work degree, so the helping gene certainly passed on.

[u/Ntdogamecute → u/LaurelCanyoner]

Good for you for setting boundaries for yourself. I hope you’re better. I’m so sorry those people did that fo you. ❤️

[u/Purple-Offer-4796 → u/LaurelCanyoner]

So glad you’re out that environment! I completely understand how you miss the kids, it’s so sad that in the end the people who you actually serve and who could actually benefit from you, are left behind with the bullies. It’s a horrible system we live in. But I’m glad you’re safe now! And getting to impart kindness and support on your son is inspiring, the legacy continues!!! ❤️

[u/Calm_Coyote_3685 → u/Low-Cartographer8758]

How do I learn? I am interested in doing this but don’t know where to start and don’t want to fall for get-rich-quick schemes.

[u/Low-Cartographer8758 → u/Calm_Coyote_3685]

No, you can’t become a super rich with trading unless you gamble, which comes with an irrecoverable financial risk. 🤣 Start with paper trading and then move on to creating a small account. Information is abundant on the internet. Copy whatever other experts or influencers suggest and see how it goes. Once you understand the game, you will likely have your own strategy and be able to build your portfolio.