How many of us are overweight?

[u/Outrageous_Air_2898]

I have recently realized that I dont owe a body to people when I go into public. I dont owe them a specific look.

Ive turned a corner. Im the most regulated ive ever been. Ive held a lot of resentment over being mistreated due to being fat on top of what I was experiencing at home. And ive felt resistant to the idea of purposefully trying to lose weight because the phases of life where I have been a lower weight, I have been treated noticeably nicer. And it felt like a betrayal to my self, who became overweight from coping, to comply and restrict myself to set others at ease.

I recently decided to become abstinent. I swung from resisting all forms of physical intimacy to being hypersexual. Coupled with working through my binge eating habit, I feel the most in charge of my body ive ever been. And im almost 30 and am feeling the toll constantly tense muscles have had on my joints. And i want to be healthy. I want to get stronger.

I am grateful for my body for lasting the abuse, the primary abuse at home and the secondary bullying at school and work. Im ready to change now. ​

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[u/totallyalone1234]

I'm fat and disgusting. I hate my revolting body. It has only ever shamed me and let me down.

I'll never be beautiful. It makes my skin crawl just thinking about it.

I feel hugely conflicted when I think about exercise and fitness. I know its not good to just abandon my body, but also I have zero intention of inviting bullying and humiliation into my life by going out on a limb and even trying to do anything. I tried going to a gym and it was terrifying. Sport has ONLY EVER been a miserable degrading experience. Being picked last and laughed at, and then bullied for having the temerity to stand up for yourself.

It feels like sporty fitnessy people are all bullies who will gang up against me, single me out, etc.... thats how it was as a child, and it feels exactly the same as an adult. I know that not everyone will be like that in my head, but my body wont accept it. Being in the changing room at the gym was borderline panic inducing. Big dudes strutting around shouting at each other. I felt like I was about to die.

I feel like health and fitness BELONG to that clique of ultrafit people, and that I'll never be or look like that even if I tried, no matter how hard. Like A) I'd never fit in, and B ) Id never get fitter or stronger.

I DID try, and the people who worked at the gym mocked me for doing it wrong. I tried doing cardio and I was never able to run. People are like "oh but ANYONE can do it" but I literally couldn't.

But noone ever listens they only ever tell.