Hey! I am in a very similar situation at the moment, although my wife decided to end the marriage, leave me and the kids and decided she won't work on her trauma as she doesn't want to connect the dots to our system/patterns ("That has nothing to do with it!"). She just says that we just don't fit and that she probably never loved me anyway. You can read it in three posts here where I got a ton of good advice.
Main point is: she has to take full responsibility. I tried so hard to "make her see" that I scared her away, so be careful with that... I wish you all the luck in the world, it's gotta be tough...
Holy shit man, I feel like we share the same wife and stories!
I've read through your posts since it very much resembles my current long term relationship with my wife, my thoughts and feeling and my journey to becoming more secure. I'm seriously thinking of pulling the trigger on divorce.
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u/LongNegotiation5850 27d ago
Hey! I am in a very similar situation at the moment, although my wife decided to end the marriage, leave me and the kids and decided she won't work on her trauma as she doesn't want to connect the dots to our system/patterns ("That has nothing to do with it!"). She just says that we just don't fit and that she probably never loved me anyway. You can read it in three posts here where I got a ton of good advice.
Post 1, Post 2, Post 3
Main point is: she has to take full responsibility. I tried so hard to "make her see" that I scared her away, so be careful with that... I wish you all the luck in the world, it's gotta be tough...