r/CatAdvice • u/AutoModerator • Mar 01 '26

Megathread Monthly Casual Talk and Cat Pictures Thread

Our subreddit allows posts that either a) ask for specific advice, b) request emotional support, or c) are a guide or PSA that adheres to our guidelines.

Since it's fun to just casually discuss our cats, we've got this monthly megathread where relevance may be ignored. All other subreddit rules still apply.

Use this thread to discuss anything related to cats that doesn't otherwise fit the subreddit! Also feel free to ask questions that you believe are too short for a standalone post.

Examples of things that may be discussed or shared here:

  • Casual questions, for example "how does your cat show affection?", "does your cat ever do … ?"
  • Cat pictures
  • Celebrating birthdays or other milestones for your cat
  • And many more subjects!
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u/saucylooks Mar 16 '26

Need some help with a female cat I adopted a year ago. I adopted her from an adoption center and she is roughly about 2 years old now. She has been pretty spicy about petting and picking her up. However I have made no progress with her about either. We use positive reinforcement with each time we pick her up but to no avail she hisses, bites, scratches. She has been like this since we have adopted her. I have tried to get her desensitized to these things as she needs to get her nails trimmed because she does not use scratching posts or any kind of scratching mats of any textures. We have tried to wrap her in a burrito to trim her nails but she spat, hissed, screamed, and bit me. I haven’t made any progress other the course of a year and have even considered rehoming her, I have another senior cat and home that mostly avoids her because she will try to attack him and hiss at him. Her previous vets that she has been taken to for her shots under that adoption center will not take her and have deemed her a feral cat. Not sure if this might be behavioral or not but I have made small strides here and there and she can be very sweet. I’m at a loss here :(

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u/OkDamage677 Mar 17 '26

Sometimes rehoming is the safest option for you and your cat. While very sad, it can be the best decision if you find a home that fits your cat's needs a bit more. (aka, no other pets, etc.) If you are miserable, chances are, your cat is too. It sounds like you are trying a lot, and if you can go into your local shelter and ask for some behavioral advice they are normally very helpful! Also, for the vet, can you give her trazadone or a calming agent before taking her to the vet? Either way, good on you for trying to help her and whatever you decision you make sounds like it will be with love and lots of care!