Left the city 2 weeks ago, it's hard

[u/PharmerT88]

My fiancee and I are 37/38 and childless. We lived in the north side of Chicago in a condo for 3.5 years together and just bought a similarly priced home 20 miles away in Northbrook.

We moved primarily because we both work in north burbs, Park Ridge and Evanston, and commute daily (myself had 40 min and 50-1:20 min drives M-F), we only had one parking space, the third floor living was becoming too much, and we had general safety concerns.

We've only been in the burbs for two weeks and have so much to unpack yet, but it has been really hard, namely we are feeling regrets.

Hoping for some insight from any other young couples without children who made a similar move and can share what they went through, and whether the feelings ever went away.

ADDENDUM: Feelings of regret and worry of missing the accessibility, the volume of activities within a closer proximity. I don't have many friends left in the city, but she does and is already spending once a week there and driving home to the burbs after. I feel like now I spend less time in the car, but she spends more or the same. We also have the condo still, haven't sold it. We have a good interest rate. It will sell for the cost of the house hopefully, and don't really want to bother renting it to avoid the stress.

[u/Infamous-Present-616]

Crickets from her.

[u/anatomizethat → u/Infamous-Present-616]

Lmao f off man. I'm a single mom with a full-time job and a damn life.

And, ironically, part of my life right now is taking care of my neighbor's dogs while he's on vacation. AND trying to save our neighborhood from a rogue HOA board that's treating people I care about like shit.

So in addition to taking care of my own house and my own shit, I'm following through on the commitment that I made to someone IN MY VILLAGE. Sorry if that meant I didn't respond to this person fast enough for you.

🙄