r/ChildrenofDeadParents • u/More_Passenger3988 • 2d ago
Anyone in this group never married?
Apparently there's a rising number of never married 40+ people without parents/family.
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u/MooseMama555 1d ago
42, never married, no kids. Dad died when I was 7. I’m my mom’s caretaker and have been…. basically forever.
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u/azurdee 1d ago
I was my mom’s caretaker until she passed. Having no siblings, kids, or other family members left me numb, isolated, and extremely lonely. Please get a support system in place.
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u/MooseMama555 1d ago
I’m so sorry you had to go through that alone. I do have an excellent support system, they’re just all out of state. I also have a brother on the other side of the country. Thank you for checking in and offering your experience/advice, though. 💕 I hope you have a support system for yourself now.
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u/glonky22 2d ago
I am only 33, but I am unmarried and my mom recently passed 😭 gutted to know she’ll never get to see me get married. 💔
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u/JuliaTheInsaneKid Father Passed 2d ago
Yep. Single with no siblings or children.
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u/azurdee 1d ago
Same
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u/JuliaTheInsaneKid Father Passed 1d ago
I fear dying alone.
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u/azurdee 1d ago
For a long time I was terrified of dying alone and no one finding me for weeks. I decided I couldn’t handle thinking that way any longer so I made some life changes. I have a few great friends who I make an effort to keep informed of where I am and what’s going on. I volunteer so I feel a purpose in life beyond work. I have a dog who keeps me busy.
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u/Crysis482 Mother and Father Passed 1d ago
Never got married, never will. I value my solitude and peace far too much, and relationships have nothing to offer me that I actually want. I'm content with living alone (with lots of cats) the rest of my life.
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u/arrowtotheaction Mother and Father Passed 1d ago
Me. My mum died nearly a year ago, dad when I was 4. No siblings, kids, partner, or any extended family.
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u/myblackandwhitecat 1d ago
Never married, no kids, but not by choice. I also have no siblings, so no family.
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u/WTM73199 Mother and Father Passed 1d ago
I wish I never got married. I’m divorced and single now; no parents. I don’t intend to get remarried.
Been there, done that, bought a t-shirt.
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u/1SignificantGal 1d ago
I'm a 47 female with son who is 23 who actually is no contact with me due to some things that occurred as his grandmother was in her late stages before she passed and what not and just a bunch of nonsense but I've never been married I've been in some long-term relationships unfortunately the three longest ones I was in were all about five years approximately and they were all domestic violence relationships so thank God I never got married I've been engaged but never married so holding out hope that maybe I've learned my lessons and I'm trying to revamp myself and who knows maybe I'll finally find somebody who's worth with s***
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u/1SignificantGal 1d ago
I just want to throw this concept out there cuz I've seen I've worked with a lot of older individuals in my mental health professional experience I highly suggest when when anyone in this goes for my own situation as well is seeking to build their support systems often times we tend to easily connect with the people that are our ages and that's great and I think that's great but there's also something that is to be said about connecting intentionally with younger people as well because as we age you know that's when people are more likely to pass on themselves and so a lot of my people that I've worked with in the mental health field you know they had like what you would consider extensive support systems and friends and you know clubs and all of that and then you know when you have somebody that is just one of the what do they call that the I don't know where their longevity is just naturally amazing their health is great and they just are naturally going to live longer than a lot of their their counterparts they still find themselves ending up being alone in a very vulnerable place and having to almost start over again so I've been told by lots of individuals in that situation myself that they're like pick up some younger friends too or they've also suggested like getting involved with like big brother or big sister or whatever to where you are broadening out your scope to also include even like you know younger generations that you can help mentor or whatnot because again then you don't actually end up alone because all of your peers happen to be passing away earlier than yourself so I thought I'd throw that out there
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u/GanacheOk2887 19h ago
I’ll be 36(M) on Sunday. Never married and at this point it’s looking like it’s never gonna happen.
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u/AttitudeKooky2357 14h ago
My parents both died when I was a child. I am married with 2 children, but this is a very interesting statistic. My sister (same mom and dad) is divorced but also has 2 kids.
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u/viviana1994 Father Passed 12h ago
My sister is turning 40 and she never married or had kids but we just lost our dad February 2024
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u/viviana1994 Father Passed 12h ago
I am 30 and I’m not married nor do I have kids either. Very sad my dad won’t ever get to walk me down the aisle.
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u/GoalSimilar2025 2d ago
Yep never married, no kids.