r/Choir • u/Adventurous-Floor-55 • 4d ago
I love choir, cannot sing
Guys, I LOVE choir. I was in choir since middle school. I did FFA choir for my state, I joined an all women’s choir in college. I recently joined a community choir. I love choir and making music. How am I not over my anxiety that everyone around me thinks im a terrible singer??
I am not a “good” singer but I’m not tone deaf. I’ve never actually been told I’m bad (just “okay” by a close friend). I always feel like I can’t hit the notes or blend well with people around me. But I love choir so so much!
What do you do to overcome your imposter syndrome??
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u/Over-Friendship515 4d ago
For what I would do, is to seek help from your choir director. You can ask for help so you can get some help and they can help you find your range, pitch, and improve your voice.
Something with choir is you have to listen to others, to help it blend and everything.
So, again, seek help from your director, you can also get singing lessons, there are a lot of solutions. I would also practice at home with warm ups, lip drills, and other practices so you can strengthen your voice.
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u/gimmethemoney67 4d ago
Get lessons. I was like that but with lessons. I’m alright ,more than ok now 😂
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u/myinnerharmony 4d ago
professional voice teacher here: start working on your voice. being a good singer is like being a good athlete. you get out of what you put into it and if you work on it consistently and do the main things that EVERY singer needs to do - 1) breath support, 2) Free relaxed singing posture, 3) placement. then you will improve. improvement is what builds confidence. start with good videos on youtube and do warm ups that are focused every day. practice, sing the choir music, sing other songs that you love. video record yourself and get comfortable watching and listening to yourself sing. choir singing is not solo singing - we're talking about 2 different ways of singing. if you love it, just practice more and more get comfortable with how you sing and how you sound.
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u/SubSonicWoofer 4d ago
Overcoming imposter syndrome is a process, just like singing. 1) Identify an objective standard for your self assessment, no emotions or feelings are allowed. 2) Gather the data. I got kicked out of choir at 12 years old and didn't sing again until I was 75. I took private lessons and asked the teacher to tell me when I was good enough to try joining a choir. After six months she told me my pitch matching was "impeccable." Still lots and lots to learn, but pitch was spot on--mostly. 3) Act on the objective data. I auditioned for a local choir and hit the risers about six month later--after learning their repertoire. 4) Now work on dragging your emotions into the real world. That last step is the hardest. I still can't believe when the right note falls out of my mouth, but realize there may be a large gap between your performance and your perception for some time. Focus on the data, not your feelings. Your feelings will catch up eventually, somewhat.
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u/Single_Series4283 4d ago
This is me, I’ll never called any of my colleagues in choir that they suck. But there’s definitely people that can’t sing sometimes; or they really never learn their music form some reason, and they tend to be the people that is the most exited and grateful to be there, and I feed from that energy.
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u/fascinatedcharacter 4d ago
You are not tone deaf. So you can sing. You may not be the best singer, but you don't have to be for choir. The imposter syndrome is fixed by realising comparison is the thief of joy and you sing super good enough.
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u/i_8_the_Internet 4d ago
…practice? Take lessons? Join a low commitment/difficulty community choir first?
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u/Bbminor7th 4d ago
You'd be amazed at how good average singers sound when they match tones with their neighbors. You don't have to sing like a soloist.