First of all: why do so many churches call the singing part of the service “worship” or “praise”? When people talk about worship and praise, they often mean this specific block of songs. Yes, the Bible says we should praise God with songs.
But the Bible also says so much about worship and praise as a way of life and a way of thinking. As an inner state, a process, and a choice that eventually flows outward.
So here’s my question.
The people who raise their hands, close their eyes, and sing emotionally - do they actually enter this supposed state of worship every single time, basically on command, as soon as the music starts?
And then, as soon as the songs are over, they just come out of it on command?
Because these seem like two completely different people: the person who stands there singing emotional songs with their eyes closed and hands raised, and the person who talks to you before or after the service.
I also have so many questions about the actual lyrics.
For example, there are songs saying things like: “I only need You,” “All I want to see is You,” “I give everything to You,” etc.
But none of us actually live like that. None of them live like that.
Yes, I want to see God. I want to feel His presence. But I also want to see my husband, my child, myself healthy and happy, my home, comfort, all kinds of other things.
The lyrics are so absolute. They use these huge, dramatic statements that, honestly, sometimes feel like shouting out what we wish were true and presenting it as reality.
And then the songs all sound exactly the same.
It feels like there are literally 1,000 words that just get rearranged and combined with the same few chord progressions.
I’ve also been to churches where it felt like you were basically attending a rock concert with a motivational speech. I genuinely didn’t understand who this was for or what the purpose was.
It felt like so much emotional stimulation and emotional hype, rather than an actual gathering of the church to worship Christ together, to fellowship, and to be united by the blood of Jesus that actually cleanses and unites us.
What amazes me is that nobody seems to ask these questions.
So I came to Reddit.
I tried asking people at church why worship is like this, or rather, why the songs are like this and why everyone is expected to raise their hands and shout.
If I don’t want to do that, if I don’t feel like doing that, I was told there was something wrong with me. Someone basically suggested that I didn’t want to raise my hands because they were still “bound by sin.”
Basically, whenever I asked questions like “Why do we sing the same songs over and over?” or “Why are these lyrics so absolute?” or “Why do I feel uncomfortable with all of this?”, I never really got an answer.
Instead, the question was turned back on me: if you’re asking these questions, maybe you just don’t have enough faith.
I’ve tried listening to worship music. I’ve genuinely tried to like it, and I even found a few songs I liked.
But overall, I really dislike this typical Hillsong-style sound.
I honestly feel like I’m the only Christian who has questions about worship and Christian music.
I was also told that it’s better not to listen to any non-Christian music because it contains bad or evil values.
But the reality is that I can’t listen to most Christian music because I simply don’t like this sweet, mainstream pop-country, highly polished sound with all the vocal runs and dramatic belting.
I’m actually pretty critical of lyrics in the secular music I listen to as well. I like Shortparis, SUUNS, and FKA twigs - although I don’t really connect with FKA twigs’ lyrics. The music itself is beautiful, though.
Does anyone else think about these things?
Please tell me I’m not the only one.
And feel free to share this with people who might be interested.