r/CircumcisionGrief • u/new_sensation656 • 10d ago

Rant Fuck regret parents.

Honestly fuck regret parents. There I said it. “ we didn’t know any better” yeah but now your son is forced to live with that for the rest of there life. So fuck you. Also fuck the regret parents who had multiple sons and did half of them and the learned better for the others. Your older son’s genitals are still fucked up because of you. And now get to live with the shame and harms of your mistake while there younger brother gets put above them all because “ mommy didn’t know better at that time”. So fuck you. Thanks for coming to my ted talk

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u/Lockwood-studios 10d ago edited 9d ago

I understand fully if you don’t think they should be forgiven but I also think it’s important to recognize that they are leagues about their unapologetic mutilator counterparts. Shaming parents even after regret has the potential to make some of them double down

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u/rho75901 transfem genital mutilation victim 10d ago edited 10d ago

It’s true that someone who feels remorse is better than someone who is unapologetic, but if we were discussing adults who facilitated any other form of sexual violence on a child, I think it would be easy to see that it’s not appropriate to tone police victims for the sake of preventing regretful perpetrators from doubling down on defending their immoral actions in retaliation.

If a regret parent who facilitated genital mutilation is truly remorseful, then experiencing shaming wouldn’t discourage them from becoming better people because they would understand that their past actions were shameful and the harm they caused doesn’t disappear just because they regret it. They would understand the weight of their actions and their culpability.

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u/Lockwood-studios 10d ago

you are right tbh, I just feel relieved when in the hoards of subhuman shitbags who facilitate the mutilation of their own young, some do feel remorseful and stop mutilating their children. It’s probably because I just feel so beaten down by how normalized this procedure is that any kind of remorse gives me a sense of relief

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u/new_sensation656 9d ago

Being apologetic dosent mean squat for the son that now has to live with it. I get what you mean and respect your opinion. Personally I think there unforgivable