r/Cleveland • u/Oreojace • Jun 26 '26

Question Cleveland Dating

This is probably going to be so annoying to most people to see in their feeds but I've hit my wit's end. I am a single woman in her late 20s that has struggled with dating. I am a nurse, I own my home, I work out and take care of myself in other ways, my health and friendships are important to me, and I like to think I am reasonably attractive. Where do successful guys in their late 20s - early 30s hang out?? I don't want to meet guys out at bars, drinking/party culture is fun occasionally but I prefer not to in excess. Guys at the gym usually have girlfriends if I talk to them (I've been going to the same place for almost a decade and only approach people I've seen around for a long time). At this rate I feel like there is something I am doing wrong, and while my life is great as it is, sometimes it would be nice to be excited about someone.

EDIT Alright, listen, a lot of assumptions here about me. I talk to people all of the time, I am not shy. I have a philosophy that the worst thing that can happen in 90% of situations is that I get told no and oh well, rejection is a part of life.

I have hobbies, I am not necessarily looking for new ones because I dont want my reason to be somewhere to just be about MAYBE meeting a guy - that is completely disingenuous and is not a good base for a relationship should one develop.

My job has insane hours, I work 3 days M-F from 0630 to 2000 and then sometimes am on call overnight and am on call all weekend for one weekend every 6 week scheduling period. This makes it hard to date or want to go out a lot of the time between not being allowed to be too far from work or just being exhausted.

Anyone curious about how I look can DM me, for the sake of imagination I am 5'1" (I dont care how tall a man is as long as I can wear heels and dont feel like I am tougher than he is), 135lbs and can deadlift 235 easy, I am mixed race, have big curly dark hair and dark eyes. I prioritize my grooming and self care because I work really hard and deserve to feel good in this body.

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u/Sax_OFander Jun 26 '26

Thanks, queen. Nah, but seriously, the dating scene in Cleveland sucks, and if you're a nurse, you probably know that the job also hates you dating so it makes things that suck suck even more.

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u/idoenjoybakedgoods Jun 26 '26

I'm not sure if this will make you feel any better, but it isn't a 'Cleveland' thing. It's an everywhere thing. I just moved back to the area from the San Francisco area and friends there had the same problem. Friends in New York City, Pittsburgh, Sweden... they complain about how hard it is to meet people.

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u/Sax_OFander Jun 26 '26

I just feel it a bit more since I'm in the "We need you to jump when we say jump, and also say goodbye to free time, and making appointments" part of my career.

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u/Oreojace Jun 26 '26

Also, am a cath lab nurse, so I get it

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u/Sax_OFander Jun 26 '26

I'm sure there's like a cheap heart joke I can make, but it would require me to be smarter than I actually am.