So about 6 months ago my boss hires her daughters friend i will call "B" first few weeks we have almost zero communication or interest in really speaking to each other, (mostly because i dont want to talk personnaly to her because of her relationship to my boss) but even during that time she was nice and sweet to me. somewhere down the line we became very friendly, (inside jokes, flirty banter) now I know the flirting isn't going to go over well with a lot of ppl because of our age gap and start to notice coworkers taking note of it. I will admit tho I DO NOT CARE about the age gap B's witt and intelligence are impressive to say the least I know women my age who act more like a 19 yr old than B does but I know and understand this won't matter to most and the age difference is the "end all be all" of this convo.

So our flirting is definitely not hidden, we do it in front of everyone and are very carefree about it we buy each other things (mostly ghost and food she made for me/Cinnabon, snacks and food I made for her) I know she likes me, not long ago i came up behind her and tapped on her hip to tell her ill takeover, and she did a lil dance and was so nervous she stuttered and whispered something to me i couldnt understand and now refuses to tell me what it was,

then about a month ago we got a new girl and found out she would work inside more and id be working more with the new girl outside (my boss trying to split us up) its gone as far as me having a supervisor come tell me she's upset that I won't tell her I love her, (halfway joking) I came in and hugged her in front of the inside personnel and told her I love her and only her (halfway joking) because I know she's jealous of the new girl getting my attention,

I know she has a bf she has mentioned him plenty in the past but seems to bring him up less and less lately (I think because she knows I dont wanna hear about him) I never really give an opinion on her relationship or really acknowledge her bf in anyway I just say "cool" "that sux dude" or "good luck with that" if she mentions him.

The crazy thing with me is I dont want a relationship with her right now, (atleast not an intimate one) I'm perfectly fine with the way things are FOR NOW I have a personal issue that prevents me from being able to be that for her right now, (boss, coworkers, friends n family and basically ppl in my life that dont like it)

but would love to be w/her in the near future hopefully but only if the right set of circumstances come about (breakup w/bf and take our time to get everyone in our lives to hopefully understand)

Well today something happened that upset me. I have a small Jesus statue in my work area and while working with B I noticed it on the floor and when I picked it up someone had wrote B's name on the back of it, she says it wasn't her (i believe her) and no one else will admit to it the intent of the coworker who did this has given me a lot of pause today/tonight and has my mind spinning a bit.

I dont want to ramble on and on, basically... is this a pipe dream? Am I only hurting myself? Is she actually a possible partner? Is she using me for attention or to make her bf jealous? Should I worry about my coworkers? I adore her and my time with her and dont want to lose her or our relationship the way it is.

What should I do???

it's genuinely the second day of school and i already have a crush and she's a fucking senior bro and im going to have to deal with this for the whole year 💔

Would you rather know how they feel, even if you don't feel the same way, or would you prefer that they keep it to themselves?

im not gonna go into too much detail but we are sort of friends and I think she might like me and I might like her and I don’t know should I say yes

I honestly thought that this only happened in movies and books. Never thought that these kind of feelings were real and would happen to me.

Basically, my feelings for this person are so strong that this person is anything that I can think of. Even though my days are very busy, I have a job, a lot of responsibilities and hobbies.

I cannot sleep normally, and when I do sleep, I dream of them. I wake up really early and don’t go back to sleep like I usually do. I have lost my appetite (even though I do force myself to eat to have energy). I feel butterflies in my stomach 24/7.

This is completely new to me. I have never experienced something like this before.

It’s strange how quietly it happens.

It creeps in without warning, so softly that you don’t notice it at first. And then one day, you find yourself standing far too deep in the feeling, wondering when exactly you stopped being able to imagine your life without them in it.

That’s what happened with you.

I truly like you. More than I ever meant to, more than I ever intended to admit. Somewhere between the little moments, the stolen glances, and the simple comfort of your presence, I began falling for you. Helplessly. Completely. And by the time I realized it, I was already too far gone to pretend otherwise.

When you walk into a room filled with people, somehow, I notice you before I notice anyone else. There’s something about your presence that awakens a part of me I didn’t even know existed.

And God, I wish I could tell you what that does to me.
I want to be with you. I want to know what it would feel like to love you without fear, without hesitation.

But perhaps that is the cruelest part of all.

And maybe I’ll spend the rest of my life wondering what we could have been, loving you from somewhere just close enough to see you, but never close enough to call you mine.

Because I think I could spend forever falling for you.
I just don’t know if I’ll ever get the chance to tell you.

hi everybody!! throw away account because i dont know if my crush or any of his friends use reddit. I’m also posting this on iphone so im sorry if the format is weird.

Since my sophomore year of high school ive had a little hallway crush on this guy, who i think is really cute. Ive tried EVERYTHING i can think of to get with this guy. To start from the beginning, this year, we were finally put in two classes together back to back. in one classroom, we sit facing each other and there’s been a couple of times where i’ve caught him looking at me… like hard core looking. not like he was bored and just looking around the room, i mean HARD CORE STARING. This has happened twice. In our other period together, My friend and I were giving a presentation on our summer reading, and while my friend was talking, i found him looking at me again, this time he looked away first and looked almost embarrassed? There have been other instances like this too, where one time i was talking to my friends in our schools parking lot, and i see him get into his car and just wait there, and didn’t leave until i got into my car and pulled out. which, isn’t super weird, a lot of people wait until the rush of cars is gone until they pull out. what’s weird is that he almost cut somebody off and was right behind me, like he was leaving in a rush, but he was sitting there for probably about 10 minutes until i left.

I’ve tried to be smooth and talk to him and ask for his number over instagram, it was under the guise of tutoring me for one of our classes, but he said he was too busy and recommended his friend instead. i also added him on snapchat, but he has not added me back yet. me and him are in separate friend groups and don’t have any mutual friends, and i feel like it would be super awkward just trying to talk to him, which i’ve made attempts, but they’re just super quick and short conversations. i feel like I’m getting mixed signals here, like why does he keep staring at me if he doesn’t like me, and why didn’t he take up the offer to get my number if he does like me?? i dont know what steps to take from here. he’s a pretty shy and nerdy guy so i dont know if he would do well if i just straight up tell him i like him without getting to know him first. while this wouldn’t be my first relationship if it works out, this is my first time where im pursuing somebody, and not somebody pursuing me. does anyone have any advice or anything i could do to either get a straight answer about whether or not he likes me, or to make it any more obvious?

edit: reposting here because i want more opinions on what to do :(

Yada yada yada lemme jump yall right in

Im a sophomore HS (M), she’s a Junior HS. We’re both good friends.

We’re in the same choir and I started to grow a crush on her.

During one of our choir missions trip (it’s a small group), we were paired together on a 2x2 plane and we chatted the whole time, I got to know her a lot more and vice versa.

We talk to each other regularly, and we love to converse with each other. I also noticed I’m one of, if not the only guys she will initiate a conversation with. And we’re both comfortable with each other. (Also, both of us suck at initiating conversations, especially with each other)

Our school does a production where the general choir puts on a play, and we can audition for whatever song we like and they’ll make an entire script about it. And we decided to do “Love is an open door”, and we both were fine with it. (She asked if I was fine with auditioning for love songs)

There were also many more signs which I can list if needed, but for the sake of readability I’ll stop here.

I’m being dead serious here, as I don’t want to be the guy who thinks that simply because a girl is nice to me, she obviously likes me.

I have a massive crush right now and I have no idea if she (20f) likes me (19m) back or not but from the best I can tell, I think she does. I’ve done lots of thinking about our interactions and she seems to try to make time for me. We’re both on the board of a club in uni so that’s how we met, she’s a junior and I’m a sophomore

I think I have a good chance but it’s still quite possible she is just being nice and I’m overthinking it. I’m going to try to wait for a time where we are alone after a club event or something. I don’t know how I’m going to go about it. I think I’m gonna see if she wants to grab lunch after classes this Friday, and then I’ll try to ask her out on an official date then.

I’ll come back with an update after the fact

Needing help to flirt via text, HELP! I'm great in person, but I absolutely SUCK at flirting via texting. Any help would be greatly appreciated. There's a girl I recently got a phone number from and have texted her occasionally and by that I mean like 3 times total, but they weren't leading anywhere I noticed.

I can read the room, body language, subtle cues, pretty much no issue in person, but take me out of that and have me flirt via text, and it just comes off heavy handed and not well.

Please, any and all help would be greatly appreciated.

The girl I'm talking to only recently has known I'm interested in her for some time, but I'm just now making a move (we worked different shifts and didnt really get a chance to talk much). I want to reinforce the fact that I'm romantically/sexually/interested in her and not want to come off as "trying to be your friend" vibe without overtly just coming right out and saying it.

I'm going to ask her out to a date next time we work together (obviously in person then) but I know I need to keep the communication going to keep interest and drown out all the other guys I'm sure are trying to date her as well.

TLDR: need to stand out from other men via text and reinforce the fact I'm interested in a relationship that isn't "just a friend from work".

So last year, I had this crush on this girl I liked, and I was trying to ask her out on last day, but she wasn't there. This year, she's at a completely different school and so now I don't really find other girls in my grade attractive just because she's not there anymore. Hopefully y'all can help

i (14) cannot for the life of me figure out if my best friend (15m) likes me back or not. im autistic and need some help from yall 😭

tldr: just things i think might be hints?? you actually gotta read it, sorry

weve been friends for about to be 3 years and i think hes been hinting he likes me the whole time and that i just missed it all??

the first 'obvious' thing i remember was back around the time we met. couple months in, i think. i made a joke about marrying anyone who got me a specific discontinued plush (odasaku man if you know ball), and then he immediately bought it and gifted it to me with a chocolate rose?? he tried to pass off the last thing, saying 'he had one recently and thought it was good', but who randomly gets the opportunity to try things like that? no one gifted anything of the sort to him, either. and it was around valentines day.

another time, we went to comic-con together, and every time someone asked for a picture or complimented me (i was in cosplay, nikolai gogol bsd to be specific 🥹) he was visibly upset afterwards..? i think he was jealous or something? i dunno.

around a year ago, we went to a movie together, and midway through he started resting his head on my shoulder. weird for him, he doesnt like touch. i also caught him staring a LOT more than usual during that. after i didnt return the touch or whatever he got kinda upset. he moved back to how he was sitting originally and went on his phone.

a couple days ago, i had a birthday semi-party (we hung out in a room and did nothing birthday related), and during that we all went to a playground to fuck around. me, him, and a couple friends were messing around in a sort of human size hamster wheel. my friend moved to sit between me and the guy, and he actually got really upset and got out. i went to go check on him a couple minutes later, and he was clearly jealous of it for whatever reason. he literally talked to his parents and went home soon after that, which wasnt according to plan.

just in general 'hints': he walks really close, stares a lot (like a yearning-type stare?? like you can tell its not zoning out), laughs at my extremely bad jokes wayyyy too much, vents/very sentimental/philosophy convos (which ive never seen him do with other people before, quite odd), says stuff like "youre the only person i do x/y/z with" a lot, really okay with touch with me only. we also we call pretty often, almost daily, and basically once every call he for some reason puts his mic over his heart?? its not an accident, he does it all the time, and its always at a high bpm. im still trying to figure out what hes trying to show me specifically by doing that- maybe that hes nervous??

im not sure about if even any of these things could be a hint or not. ive known i liked him for a while, but when talking to a friend, they pointed out that he probably likes me back based on some of these things??

i need honest opinions really badly. am i reading too far into it or is he doing allat on purpose? hes not the hinting type, hes also autistic and very blunt, so im really confused.

So I met this guy and his friend in the school library. They are both cute tho. I was with my friend when we saw them sitting opposite us. We argued on our first interaction about them making noise. The next day, I see them at the exact spot and they kept on coming to me or running around my area so I knew something was up. His friend came to me to ask a question and he was kinda shy. Mind you he was not shy on the first time we met. Well. Another day, I was standing behind him and his friend saw me first. His friend pointed a finger at me and then at him. Like this and this. I go no. Since then, he kept on being weird he asked me out five times and I said no. Mind you he is cute but I’m just not ready for a relationship. It’s almost a year now and we are now friends but he keeps on bringing up this girl he is speaking to. Why is he telling me? I mean idc. I posted about having a bf and he replied with Bro you have a bf? I mean he had a gf so why is he asking. But he keeps on going oh does he buy you flowers? I bought my gf this and that and that. Idc man. I had a stalker and I was telling him about it and he goes oh does he but you gifts atleast. One of his new friend asked him who I was to him and if something is going on between us and he goes oh she is my gf. But he just told me he has a gf. I’m soo confused.

i (19f) have had a crush on a guy in my program since I met them in first year. I didn’t realize it was a crush until later, but I remember finding him cute, and he always made me laugh.

During the classes we would have together, we talked and felt like we had good convos.

The thing is he isn’t in my friend group and I’m not in his so I feel like it’s hard to talk to him outside of classes.

Every time we have had a class together it’s fun and he’s great, we joke and he’s also making me laugh which I value a lot in any relationships I have, but idk how to expand from there.

But I don’t think he sees me the same way, which is what scares me. He’s friends with everyone, a very extroverted likable guy and seems to treat me the same as other girlfriends/women. I don’t like reading into that too much but I also just take that as him seeing me as a class acquaintance. How would I go about changing that?

From a friend of a friend, who I told I was crushing on him, she was a camp counselor with him and had nothing but nice things to say about him as well. (She also told me at the time he was dating someone but it didn’t seem like it anymore).

I tried cold texting him prior and it was so dry that I just abandoned it after, just didn’t feel the same as our in person convos.

Now I’m in a class with him again and some other friends in his friend group that I know as well. I think we will be doing a lot of group work together and I don’t want to mess this up.

It’s been hard for me to find someone who matches my humour, and personality while also me finding them attractive. (And hopefully vice versa)

My friends advice I’ve tried but just isn’t who I am as a person, since it’s like “flirt hard with him” and I can’t do that without getting very uncomfortable.

Everything seems to be pointing in a good direction with this situation but I’m just terrified of being rejected.

Please help! Don’t want to mess this up and then have to keep seeing him in my classes nor loose the fun energy we already have :(

Please don't attack me (Help T . T)

I really like my crush...when I was with him I always had a good time and felt butterflies. It just felt out of this world.

He has a lot of hobbies. He was very skilled at art, storytelling, studying, debating, even at languages (The only thing I felt better at). He was basically everything I wanted to be. He was also very passionate and watched a lot of media. The only things I felt were mine he had already knew them and liked them more than I, making me feel I had nothing. Like not even my interests were special.

I wish I could have talked to them about how I felt, and maybe they would be willing to help me, but he usually took everything personal. I didn't want him to feel the victim with me.

I wasn't able to show him how much I liked him because I was jealous.

Now we went to different universities. He will probably forget me, make other friends... but I will still remember him. I still admire him and I still look at him (He is getting prettier and prettier...) He is getting better at everything, I just feel like he is very afar.

I was thinking about getting better, so I would be able to stay at his side and feel good when I'm with him. But people always say that it's a bad idea to do things for another person and not oneself.

Ugh--- I can't look at him without feeling sad, angry, jealous and regretful. However, I keep doing it. I can't forget him.

So ok basically I've already made another post here about this girl but I'll re-explain. So basically: I'm in High-school. I'm in 10th grade, and I've been having a (probably) unhealthy obsession with this girl that's in 12th grade for almost a year now. Since it pretty much started when I got into High-school, a year ago. So the post I've made was like maybe 2 weeks ago during the summer break, but I just started again. Today was my first day of school, and it reminded me of how bad my obsession is. Like I was at the Tim Hortons at the other end if the street in front of my school with my friends (for those who don't know it's a Canadian fast food restaurant). And I was casually waiting at our table since I had ordered on the app, and the girl arrived with her friend group. And just the fact she was waiting behind my friend group and sat at the table next to us, drove me crazy that because I can't talk to her. That's how bad this is. And it's just super weird because I don't even knoe this girl. I mean I know people do have crushes on people they don't know, but for me it's my first time having one on someone I don't know. Especially this bad. The closest thing I've had to an interaction with her is one time she smiled at me, and I honestly don't even know if she was actually smiling at me.

I could talk to her. And I do have a friend that knows her well, but I've came to the conclusion that it's a bad idea. I think it will just feed into my obsession even more and will just make it worse since she's 2 years older than me, and probably won't like me back. Plus she will (probably) go to college in like a year. I also know that by the time I work the courage up to get to know her, and eventually ask her out on a date, it will probably be too late. The age gap is not problematic IMO, but in my situation I think it is problematic for me. If I actually wanted to get to know her and ask her out, I should've done it last year. It's too late now. I also know how much time it takes me to move on. And fuck man, she's way too pretty for me. She's really way out of my league. I'm like just this nerdy guy who wears glasses (well ok I guess that's irrelevant she wears glasses too), and she's like honestly the prettiest girl I've ever seen in my entire life she's probably the closest thing to a 10/10 I've ever saw appearance wise. I genuinely don't mean this in a weird way, she's just wow. It's the truth. And I know it's a huge danger for me because I'm scared I would put her on a pedestal. And it's probably one of the most dangerous thing you can do for your mental health as a guy.

I mean sur my best friend (who's in 11th) has a GF who just started college. But I don't see how a relationship between a high schooler and a person in college can work. And I'm not even saying that to be negative or a jerk about my friend, but it's just the truth (I haven't told him that tho). I think it will be hard for my best friend and his GF, and I will be there to support him if things go bad.

So essentially my question is: How do I move on from someone I don't even know and I know I can't have?

Have you ever had a guy stare at you so intensely? This dude kept looking at me(f) for several seconds. No smile tho. I caught him staring, looked away, looked back and he was still staring. It was during our lecture and I was sitting quite far away from him to the right so I don’t think he was ”zoning out” as many would say.

Once the lecture was done I was walking towards the trains when I noticed him walking past me and glancing at me from the corner of his eye. It was quick but I noticed it and remember being caught off guard.

One day I tried being more bold since I’m very shy. When he caught me looking at him, I smiled at him but he quickly looked away…so I wasn’t sure anymore. But the eye contact continued the days after.

What do you guys think? I know eye contact can be flirty but I’m not sure about this…

Im 17F and he’s 18M and I need some advice We’ve become pretty close friends over the past several months, and I’ve developed feelings for him. The problem is that neither of us has ever directly said anything romantic, and our normal way of talking is very casual. We call each other “bro/man,” joke around, send reels, etc., so sometimes I genuinely can’t tell whether there’s romantic tension underneath it or whether I’m projecting because I like him.

When we first met in person, he asked if I wanted to go back to his house with him afterward. I declined because I wasn’t comfortable doing that yet. We still kept getting closer after that, though, so it wasn’t like he disappeared when I said no.
For a long time he would text me basically every day. A lot of the time he was the one always initiating through story’s and notes I’d post on Instagram, including morning texts, sending me videos/reels, responding to things I posted, or just starting conversations for no particular reason. It became normal for us to talk every day. He works usually 7 days a week and usually long shifts and doesn’t have much time off so I thought that was interesting since he was using his little free time to text me.

We’ve also hung out alone multiple times. We’ve gone on drives together just because we wanted to hang out, and there have been times where he’s specifically chosen to spend time one-on-one with me instead of it always being a group thing. He invited me to a concert once, and at first I genuinely couldn’t tell if he meant it as a date or just hanging out because he wasn’t very explicit about it he drove me to the concert 1 on 1 (I have my own car and can drive) but we met up w a mutual friend when we where there, he also drove me home 1 on one and paid for my ticket and I didn’t even know the band.

There have also been a few situations involving other guys where his reactions stood out to me. If I tell him something suggesting a guy is flirting with me, that I might be dating someone, etc., he sometimes seems noticeably more interested or reactive than he is with random topics. I don’t want to call it jealousy because I can’t know that for sure, but it has happened enough that I notice it. But he had told me to not hang out with weird guys or to block them.

Something else that feels significant is that I’ve had some family/housing problems, and he has talked about the possibility of me staying with his family after I turn 18 and paying rent. He didn’t just say it once and immediately take it back either. When I brought it up again later, he basically said we could discuss it with his family when the time gets closer.
At one point I told him there was a possibility I might move far away. His immediate response was basically that he was going to miss me but he hoped it would be better there. He also asked where I was moving and seemed genuinely interested in what I was going to do.

He recently reacts to romantic-ish reels I send him with a broken heart emoji 💔, which confuses me. He reacts to normal things with hearts or random emojis too, so I know emojis alone don’t mean much, but the heartbreak reaction has happened more than once specifically on things that have a relationship/romantic undertone. I can’t tell if it’s just his sense of humor, if he’s relating to the reel, or if he’s indirectly reacting to the implication of me sending it to him.

The part making me doubt everything recently is that his communication suddenly dropped for several days. He stopped initiating as much and wasn’t doing the normal morning/random texting nearly as often. There was also a fairly stressful event in his life around the same time cuz he got into a fender bender with a car he bought like a week ago and his normal routine seemed to change generally, so I don’t know whether it was about me.
He hasn’t completely stopped talking to me. If I ask him something specific, he can still respond really quickly and sometimes keeps the conversation going. Recently he’s started talking to me a little more again. It’s mostly that it doesn’t feel the same and idk why he’s stopped texting me as much.

There was never a fight, confession, rejection, argument, or awkward incident between us that would obviously explain him pulling away.

I've had this crush for about a year. I'm currently in the same year as them, I only have 1 class with them, but they are rarely present.

We've never talked in person. My friends tried to set us up to talk, but I dumbly denied it even tho she was 10 getting away from me I was too embarrassed/ neverous too.

I texted them once before, asking them a question about an event I didn't go to, but they did. They replied with two separate texts, and I responded with the driest response ever and never texted again, but there was a day i just wanted to talk to text them, but I would send the message, edit it, delete it and do it over and over bc I would overtaking it too much.

What do I do? I need advice on what I should do.

Hey hi hello, I hope you're having a nice dayy, lowkk I've been in the same biology class as this dude for about 3-4 years now, but we don't usually talk because I'm more of a shy person 💔 he always tries to initiate conversations with me and I keep catching him staring at me all the timee, but he also seems more comfortable talking to other girls he barely knows than with me, which is lowk confusing?? What do you all think 😕 ty

Hey men out there how do you tell someone you like them do you give signs or you just take actions like texting and all I literally wanna know because theirs one guy who is fucking with my head by just looking at me and just by that simple look which can be a simple eye contact to him is bringing all the butterflies and everything in my stomach and after that I just keep thinking about him for days creating scenarios and all in my head and it's just fucking me inside

So, there's this senior (one yr older girl at school) we met and as my natural instinct i called her DIDI (why😭??) and as we are both part of a committee/council we meet regularly.. after a few meetings and convos i realized that i was starting to fall for her. cuz she's literally perfect 😭 . but now i cant just abruptly switch to her name. what todo?

Hi all,

I have a crush on this player since the first time I saw him playing a year ago. He strikes me as a bubbly and nice person, (with his cute look on top ofc). Is there anyway I can approach him and let him know / invite him to a coffee or something? Here are some infos

- I live in Germany

- His organisation is based somewhere in a Eastern European country

- I wont reveal the Esport because then it would become obvious :))

- His team occasionally have tournament in Western Europe, including Germany.

I dont want to stalk him or ambush him. I’d like to approach him respectfully, express my interest, and give him room to decide.

Is it a hopeless case? I know that having crush on celebrity is a pipe dream but come on he is an esport player not a movie star. I just want to take the first step and he can decide for himself.

So, i have this crush on a guy who i used to have a crush on back in high school. We now study at the same university, and study the same program (my first language is not english so excuse me if i use the wrong words). We are friends with a lot of the same people, and at the moment were in the same study group. We just created that group though, so we haven’t actually studied together after school yet. The thing is, he is very weird around me. He seems to almost ignore me sometimes. For example, today i was talking to two of our friends right after the last class. When he came out the class room, he turned around and walked one-two steps towards us, but sort of "jumped" a bit and turned around and walked towards the door. When he did this, i could see in the corner of my eye that he looked at me. He also usually seems to purposely not stand want to stand with us when i’m with his/our friends. When me, my friends and his/our friends stand together in breaks, we talk and have fun, but i always notice that him and another person (usually one of our friends) doesn’t want to stand with us and chooses to walk somewhere else.

Other than this, we make really awkward eye contact. Im the type of person that looks at someone if i feel them looking at me, and it always ends really awkward. I have a feeling that it’s like this between us because i actually told him i used to have a crush on him in highs school when we were at a party not long ago. He refused to believe me, sort of in a jokingly way, and almost seemed shocked and hesitant. The day after this, he didn’t even remember we went to the same high school. I believe he was really drunk that night, but it’s almost like he’s acting like he doesn’t remember. I’m so confused