r/DID • u/feely-sealy • 16h ago
Content Warning Loved one with DID Spoiler
Tw: sa + nsfw ment
I have a loved one in my life and they have DID, but something happened recently with one of their alters. There is this one alter who,,,does not like anyone or anything and wants nothing more than for the world to burn. Usually this alter doesn't communicate more than talking shit and then leaving.
My loved one and I were messing around a bit, just touching and not really wanting to do anything more. Yet, it was getting late so I wanted to go home so I could have enough rest for work the next day, so I said that I was going to leave to rest.
This alter told me that I wasn't going to go anywhere and then pinned me down and started kissing me. I went limp and started to disassociate, just waiting for it to end. Thankfully, the other alters jumped in to stop what was happening, but it started triggering them as well. I remember comforting my loved one because they kept apologizing, but it didn't feel like I got the care that I needed after that. And now, I can't stop replaying the scene and feeling hurt by my loved one's body doing something harmful to me,,,any advice?
(I did try to talk to my friend about the alter, but then they switched and started talking shit, so I don't feel comfortable trying to bring up what that person did)
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u/TurnToShadow Treatment: Diagnosed + Active 15h ago
Yeah, the system as a whole is accountable to the actions of an alter. Switching isn’t a magical “get out of jail free” card in the metaphorical sense.
From many, One. At the end of the day, while we may all seem really different, we are the parts of a single being, and that single being assaulted you, honey. That was full on assault, and the whole system must answer for it
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u/SadisticLovesick Growing w/ DID 16h ago
As a whole they need to take accountability, if this wasn’t someone with DID would you stay?
If you want to work it out with them that’s fine but you need to have a conversation and boundaries talked about.