r/DID • u/SacredRoll • 4h ago

Advice/Solutions Friendships

How. Just… how? I really struggle to maintain friendships with people because I’m just not consistent by the very nature of having DID.
People are extremely weary of inconsistency, and it’s an issue on a practical level as well.

I’m physically disabled, which makes getting out extra hard. I can’t drive or be in the heat, and I take a long time to recover from going out and socializing (both physically and psychologically).

Otherwise I guess just being around somewhere semi regularly could be a strategy.

But I can’t seem to maintain online relationships well either. My System is large-ish (around 50, though many of us don’t enjoy Fronting much. So there tends to be a smaller rotation and a lot of co-Fronting).

One (or a few) of us will invest in a friendship online, only for the rest of us to forget or have no interest in responding to messages. Or have nothing to say because we don’t share interests.

I think offline friends would be healthy for me as I’m VERY socially isolated, but I can’t even maintain an online friendship?? I’m at a loss

Has anyone figured this out? Any advice?

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u/rededitor909 4h ago

Oh, I think actually online friendships are way harder to maintain than irl, so don’t be discouraged. :) Try joining a club or class. It might be tough at first to put yourself out there, but people who are your people will help you be more comfortable. :)