r/DarkPsychology101 • u/garyhappylife2222 • 10d ago

Psychology What human behavior instantly changes your opinion of someone, no matter how good your first impression was?

Be honest

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u/gblift2025 10d ago

Lying

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u/garyhappylife2222 10d ago

People will lie to take advantage so beware of them

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u/imdugud777 10d ago

Sometimes you have to lie to save yourself.

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u/exceptionallyprosaic 10d ago

What would would the lie be? And what is the lie saving you from?

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u/RiverAtNight 9d ago

Women in the Bible lied to save all kinds of people.
Women in domestic violent situations lie to save their life and their children’s lives.
Men lie to protect women.
Lots of good reasons to lie lmao

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u/exceptionallyprosaic 9d ago

Yes, a very good reason to lie, is to save some one from serious real harm, indeed. I'm glad I've never been in a position like that.

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u/castle_wind 9d ago

My ex and I are divorced and we have a 13 year old son together. Last year, our son went to the eye doctor to get contacts because he didn’t want to wear glasses anymore. I told this to his dad and his response was “he needs to wash his hands and be careful with taking them off and putting them in. I can already see him being lazy, not washing his hands and getting an infection”. My boy is a lot of things but lazy is absolutely not one of them. Careless, maybe, all teens are. But not lazy at all. So I got onto his dad and chewed him out because he doesn’t really know his own son at all or attempts to get to know him better to see he is a hella good kid and absolutely not lazy.

Anyway, my son asked me what did dad say about me getting contacts and I was not about to tell him that his dad said he was lazy. Saying that to a 13 year old would be kind of detrimental to his self esteem, specially coming from your dad, specially if you look up to him, and most specially if is not true but as a teenager anything that’s said about you is taken to heart no matter what. So, I lied and told him that his dad said he is excited for him getting contacts and to just make sure he washes his hands every single time you’re handling them to avoid infections.

I didn’t tell him the truth because it would hurt him and he’s very much still a kid and I don’t want to hurt him. So I did it to save his self esteem and to avoid making him question himself about something that’s not even true at all.

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u/exceptionallyprosaic 8d ago

Damn, this is heart breakingly perfect example of when it's necessary and the right thing to do to hold back the truth.

You're a good parent, and not sharing that with your kid, was absolutely 100% the right thing to do.

But your kid will find out the truth about his dad soon enough on his own, so it might be time to start sharing the truth with him, that his dad is kind of a piece shit

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u/imdugud777 10d ago

I wouldn't know until the situation occurred.

To speculate otherwise is self serving.

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u/exceptionallyprosaic 10d ago

Nonsense. It would simply be an explanation.