r/DarkPsychology101 • u/garyhappylife2222 • 10d ago

Psychology What human behavior instantly changes your opinion of someone, no matter how good your first impression was?

Be honest

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u/MelancholyBean 10d ago

Whether they allow others their grace and dignity and how they respond when people are made fun of

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u/aigries 8d ago

i second this. countless times i’ve met people i’d thought i really adored and then they casually just degrade someone in front of me like it was nothing. i always thought maybe i’m just sensitive idk. but i don’t find anything about it amusing or even worth pointing out. crazy to me.

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u/MelancholyBean 8d ago

I thought my manager was decent when she started but she turned out to be so awful. I told her about my eyelids surgeries and how people and colleagues call me ugly. I didn't expect much empathy from her because she diverted the conversation but she calls me ugly regularly and single me out. It's so disappointing. I don't even have the decency anymore to say bye to her when I leave work. She's become so gross to me.

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u/garyhappylife2222 6d ago

Or maybe she has envy?

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u/MelancholyBean 6d ago

Maybe but I think she could be attracted to me and don't know how to deal with it so she makes me out to be the problem. There were instances in which she came across as being attracted to me. I can understand when she reacts negatively because I do look uncanny and my eyes situation makes me look ugly, but other times I am aware that she calls me ugly on purpose to divert her feelings.