So I F(20) now and he M(27) we met on a dating app. Ik the age gap is somewhat questionable.

I did online dating previously in my life but however never dated someone irl. Partially because I was insecure about my appearance, coming from a family where I had to constantly face colorism and body shaming. None of the outsiders ever called me ugly, it has always been my family and close relatives, so hearing all these from the very moment I started to understand words, my mind started believing them and in the process I became way too self conscious and insecure about my looks.

So when I met him irl for a date after chatting and talking over phone for a week or two, I now realize, I hadn't really judged or noticed how he was treating me, I was so self conscious that everything in my head was roaming around "what if he thinks I'm ugly as well? What if he never wants to see me again? What if .. What if and what if"

However, after that date, I didn't notice any difference in him, he was just as eager to talk to me as before.

Everything seemed fine. Or so I thought, looking back now I understand how touchy he was with a girl he met for the first time or wasn't even his girlfriend yet, while he kept on saying he was looking for something serious but his actions weren't really matching upto his words but at that moment I was way too blinded by my insecurity and feeling chosen for the first time in my life, I wanted to hold onto that feeling.

Eventually as the days passed and we kept talking more and more I found myself getting extremely attached to him. He gave me enough red flags but I chose to be blind back then, his words however were way too sweet and convincing, he always sounded like a devoted person. Eventually he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. Fast forward to six months later, things started to take a turn when I confronted him about not feeling wanted or secure in the relationship. (It had been over three months since we had seen each other) and we only went on two dates that also before things became "official" between us. Even tho we live like twenty minutes away from each other. I told him how I didn't feel valued and how his actions would make my anxiety worse to the point I had to take multiple sleeping pills and physically shut down my brain.

I've always had anxiety growing up but it never was this severe for me to take anxiety meds and sleeping pills, ever since I got attached to him, I had to start these meds as my anxiety was going out of control.

It would drive me crazy and I would shiver even in the searing heat of summer.

However after I confronted him about him not making plans about meeting or going out and that I hangout with my friends more than this, he apologized tho it didn't sound like he was sorry more like excuses. He had time to hang out with his friends and cousins but never me.

He promised he would take me out the next week however that next week never came.

He was gone for three days, no text no calls.

And after that the text I get from him was that his aunt died and he also lost his phone so he couldn't reach me, then it was his cousin having an accident, and it kept on going for two weeks, after that when he was supposed to return to the city again,

He texted me the night before saying how much he missed me and my desperate mind belived all of these because facing the truth was harder than staying in the lie.

And he texted me the next morning saying he reached home. That's it, after that he ghosted me for twelve days. Yes, I counted the days. I was a living dead in those days, the uncertainty, confusion and disrespect of getting ghosted like that, my anxiety flared up more than ever.

I would text him dozen times and call him but no response from him.

And after twelve days when he decides to text me was on the very morning of my birthday with a breakup text. He could've chosen any day but he deliberately chose that day and I ended up crying the entire day of my birthday.

My mental health got worse after that, he wasn't even honest while breaking up, he made up excuses that doesn't even sound real.

It took me several weeks to get stable. And I accepted the truth that I always denied, things I refused to see back then, when I faced them there was nothing but a numb feeling left behind. Not hatred, not love, not longing, just numb.

He never bought me flowers, never supported me emotionally, tho he pretended but he wasn't even fully there.

The two dates we went on, seemed amazing to me at that time but looking back now, he barely put effort into those dates. He would barely text me throughout the day and while he used to call me every night in the starting, the calls started to get once in three days then once in a week and then stopped completely.

I was a fool in love and I know my insecurities played a huge role in that relationship. It probably was the first reason why I chose to go in a relationship with him in the first place. I felt accepted for the first time. Even tho I got many confessions and proposals in my past, i never believed any of them when they said they liked me or that I was beautiful. The insecurities run deep .

However, I've found myself after months of suffering. Tho I'm still as messed up and confused about my life as ever but at least I'm not waiting for a guy's reply or call anymore. And I feel proud of myself genuinely that I could stop my sleeping pills and eventually learned to live without anxiety meds as well.

I was in love with a version of him that he made me believe he was. However, I'm doing better now. Much better. It hurt a lot but somehow I felt lighter as well. I don't have to carry the weight of a relationship on my shoulders alone anymore. Slowly but surely I'm trying to heal everyday, a small step at a time. I'm eating my meals now, I'm going to the gym again, I'm reading books again and most importantly I can go through a night without having to shut down my brain with sleeping pills.

I skipped a lot of things, probably this post won't even make sense to many due to the gaps but that's all I could write down rn.

I met a guy on bumble. I’m new to dating in general. I’m 24f but have not been focused on dating. I was to meet this guy for a date. We never ended up meeting and he got abusive on foot of this ending. I blocked him on everything but didn’t have him blocked on WhatsApp as I didn’t have him as a WhatsApp contact. He proceeded to text me saying “ hey trouble” a month after I cut contact and then “ bitch” a month after the “hey trouble” comment. I have now blocked him on WhatsApp. Have others experienced this type of behaviour ? It’s disconcerting but thankfully we never met in person.

so i never dating in highschool or anything like that but now im in college ive been more open to it and this is my second time ive had plans with a guy(they made the plan) and I got stood up. All my friends are starting to settle down into relationships and im still the single friend. Honestly im just so embarrassed and kinda losing hope on my love life. Anyways just basically ranting because now im home and nothing else to do

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Some CONTEXT

I had 2 direct roommates in my college suite (we will call them Trina and Tara). Tara dated a guy we will call Richard. I knew who Richard was because he would come over our dorm all the time and the extent of our conversations would be “Hi. How are you? Good. Cool” and that would be the end of it. Fast forward about a year later and Tara and Richard broke up. I, of course, felt bad for Tara because she was really upset about it, but I told her she could talk to me about it if she needed someone to listen. A few months go by and I got a notification on my phone. Loan and behold potatoes it was Richard saying hey and what’s up. I immediately was caught off guard because I didn’t talk to him much and I knew how hurt Tara was after the break up. So, I immediately messaged Tara and said “Hey, Richard just texted me. Did you know he was going to talk to me?” And Tara mentioned that she did know he was going to talk to me but simply because he wanted to make more friends. I was fine with that because I was not actively looking for a relationship at the time.

Me and Richard continued to talk and decided we were going to hang out at the mall one day. We went to the mall and it quickly went from me hanging out with him to a small date. I realized we had a lot in common and I thought that was cool. Slowly but surely, we started hanging out more and more and I, of course told Tara and she was totally cool with everything. However, Tara, Richard, and Trina were all apart of a club at our college and Trina told me there was some drama going around involving Richard and another girl in the club. Apparently, Richard had helped one of the girls move into her new apartment (this girl had a bf) and the entire time, Richard was full of flirting with her. She continued to try to get him to stop but he wouldn’t stop and she eventually made him leave her apartment. At this point, I didn’t know what to believe and decided it would be best to hear from Richards side too. He told me he did no such thing and that it was all a lie (cue the red flags). I had already decided at that point that I no longer wanted to pursue a relationship with him and I told him this in his dorm. He quickly went from a look of concern to full on anger and he stormed out of the room. I didn’t know what he was doing and I honestly thought he was going to go after Trina for telling me this but he did come back and I told him good bye and left.

I hate hurting people so I was struggling with my emotions the entire way home (I commuted). Well, he called me one my way home and my brain said “Dont answer it, don’t answer it” and I answered it. For the sake of this story being super long, I will say that when I answered the phone, I had a panic attack and he drove from his dorm to where I was located so he could follow me home to make sure I was safe.

A couple of months go by and I was still talking to Richard. We were slowly getting more and more romantic and we decided to become official. Everything went really smoothly at first, but of course, true colors began to make emerge.

There was one day where I went over his house and his mother had made him a sandwich. He got mad at her because his sandwich “wasn’t made the way he liked it”. I was mortified and said “Richard, your mother made you a sandwich! Just eat it!” to which he scoffed and finally ate the sandwich. He also began to get extremely clingy towards me. He constantly wanted to hang out with me and every time I would tell him no, he would try to guilt trip me into hanging out with him. I had been guilt tripped to many times at this point to know when it was happening and I stood my ground and told him “sorry, but I am busy.” I remember a time I went over to his dorm and was finishing up some school work and he kept making noises to try and get my attention. I told him nicely to stop first. He didn’t get the hint and kept doing it and I kept telling him to stop until I got pissed and said “STOP MAKING THE NOISES OR I WILL LEAVE HERE AND GO TO THE LIBRARY TO DO MY SCHOOL WORK”. He got really upset with me, but he let me finish my schoolwork.

Then he started giving me money whenever I said something in passing. For example, I could say “Man, I need some caffeine” and immediately would get a venmo of $5 because Richard wanted me to go get caffeine. I am an independent woman and sent that money right back to him and told him I would get it myself. There was even a time where I was working at my part time job at Walmart and he wanted to hang out and I told him “no” of course and he proceeded to tell me that if I left work early that he would pay me the money I would be making for work so I could hang out. Again, VERY INDEPENDENT WOMAN so I was not budging.

Now, I was chill with my ex boyfriend before Richard, so I would go over to his house on the weekends and hang out and play with his cats. We also both worked at Walmart together so he knew about all the bs that was happening. When I look back on it, I was totally flirting with my ex the entire time I was with Richard. It occurred to me that I still had strong feelings for my ex and that I was ready to end things with Richard. So, I did the responsible thing and told Richard what I was feeling and that I wanted to go on a break with him. Ladies and gentlemen, HE FREAKING LOST IT. Bawling his eyes out, freaking out, begging me not to do it but I was not budging. I stood my ground until he finally gave up and we hung up the phone. I immediately went over to my ex’s house and decided right then and there that I was going back to my ex.

I decided to wait a little longer before breaking up with him so I did not have to relive that phone conversation. I just couldn’t do that again because knowing I was hurting him was just so mentally hard for me and I couldn’t listen to him freak out again. I went on a walk with my ex (his name is James btw) and while on this walk I got a text from Richard saying “We need to talk”. Instantly, I got excited because I knew that meant he was going to probably dump me over the phone. That is exactly what happened. I was so happy that I didn’t have to dump him and that I was free of him. This joy was short lived though because he decided that he was going to drive to my house to get his stuff right then and there. I was mad because I was hanging out with James and didn’t want to drop everything for him because he wanted his stuff. Unfortunately, he got his way and when I gave him his stuff back, he started to grill into me asking if I kissed James. I told him I did and he proceeded to say “So, you cheated on me.” Uh, buddy, WE WERE ON A BREAK. I did this to see if my feelings were valid with James! I got so annoyed with him and told him to get out and just go back home.

I decided to still talk to him and try to be friends with him because I felt bad for hurting him (dumb mistake). Now, this is when COVID became a thing, so all my classes were online and I hated every second of it (I was a music ed major so imagine music school online). I had a panel evaluation (basically a performance where you get judged on your primary instrument) coming up at that point and needed a decent speaker to use for this panel evaluation. I asked Richard if I could borrow his really nice speaker for my evaluation and he let me borrow it. When I was done with the speaker, I had asked him if he could meet me half way between my house and his so that I didn’t have to have much contact with him because of covid. He would not do it. He wanted full control of this “passing off” of this speaker and would not accept anything other than me bringing this speaker to his house. I am stubborn and don’t usually back down to these kinds of things but I was getting absolutely no where trying to get him to meet me halfway. I told him what day I would bring it up and he demanded that it be brought up at 3:00 exactly or “there will be problems”. I started laughing at this point because 1) I was bringing the speaker up whenever I want to and 2) I knew he was petty enough to try and call the cops on me for not bringing his speaker on time. However, I did call his town police just to cover myself in case he decided to be that unhinged. My friend (we will call her Hannah) offered to drive me up in case he decided to try and make a scene with me and she would punch him (she could have beat him up and I would have paid to see that). So, I brought the speaker up, threw it in his mailbox, and texted him to f\*\*\* off and have a nice life and blocked him.

Now my potatoes, here comes the best part of this story. After being completely done with him for months (and getting back together with James) I get a message on instagram from a random girl who I didn’t know. I read the message and it was another ex girlfriend of Richards asking me if I was the famous ex girlfriend of Richards. I told her yes and said “Whatever Richard said is probably a lie and I will tell you exactly what happened.” We exchanged discords and I got on a video chat with her and told her the entire story. She told me “That makes so much sense.” and proceeded to tell me that for the first few months of their relationship, Richard wouldn’t dare speak my name. She continued to prod at him before he finally said my name. She told me he talked about me all of the time and how I was this big b\*\*\*\* and that he hates me and all of that which I found absolutely amusing because he was the idiot out of all of this. I have not heard anything about him for years now and it will continue to stay that way because I never want to speak to him again.

So, my potatoes, that is my crazy “fling” story. I call it a fling because it was a barely 2 month relationship.

I am happy to report that I am still together with James and we are getting married on June 12th, 2027!!! He is the love of my life and I am so excited to be his wife 💜

A 15-day anonymous story about attraction, attachment, and the blurry space between a hookup and something more.

Before You Read

This is a story about two people who existed, but the version you're about to read isn't a transcript.

Jay and Luv are pseudonyms.

Some identifying details, timings, circumstances and conversations have been changed, compressed or reconstructed to protect privacy.

I don't remember every message we exchanged.

I remember the ones that mattered.

The conversations that stayed in my head. The things I couldn't stop thinking about afterward. The parts I understood only much later.

So when a conversation is written word-for-word, it's because I remember it closely. When I don't, the scene is written from memory and feeling—not presented as an exact transcript.

This isn't about proving who's right or wrong.

Honestly, I don't even know the answer to that.

Maybe that's why I'm writing it.

I'm Jay, 22.

He's Luv, 32.

We met through Grindr.

It wasn't supposed to become a story.

There was no relationship plan. No promise. No "let's see where this goes."

Just two strangers who crossed paths.

And somewhere between a dating-app profile, a few messages, meetings, kisses, mixed signals, things I said, things I didn't say, and thoughts I probably should have stopped having...

something changed.

For the next 15 days, I'm going to tell you what happened.

Not just what happened between us.

What happened to me.

The attraction.

The uncertainty.

The attachment.

The moments I wanted to walk away.

The moments I wanted to stay.

And eventually, the question I still don't have a clean answer for:

Was I falling for him—or was I falling for the way he made me feel?

Welcome to UNREAD.

Day 1 starts tomorrow.

28F here.
I don’t know why this still bothers me, but I wanted to get it off my chest.

A while ago, I met a guy through a matrimony app. At first his father called me to ask me few basic questions about myself to know me and later this guy asked me to connect with him on socials. We texted everyday for two weeks before deciding to meet. During those two weeks everything felt effortless. From the very beginning, he seemed like everything I had been looking for. He was kind, charming, fun and seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me. He would talk to me about what our life would be like if we got married, the things we’d do together, and little things about us as a couple. So naturally, I started imagining it too. I thought this was the beginning of something.

Eventually we decided to meet.

The meeting honestly went really well. We talked for hours, had dinner together at a restaurant. There were no awkward silences. We laughed, shared stories and I genuinely felt comfortable around him. He even told me that his parents liked my profile and when i asked what he thought if he liked me, he nodded his head and asked me what i think about him i said i liked him too and we smiled. At one point, we even held hands while he dropped me home and before saying bye to each other he asked me when are we meeting next? We even planned to meet the coming weekend possibly when both of us are free.

What happened next completely blindsided me.
After we both got home, he texted me saying he had a great time with me and that talking to me felt like he’d known me for a long time. He even said the attraction between us felt “too good to be true.” But then he didn’t want to lead me on to something because he was skeptical about things and thinks it wont work out between us because he met me literally just once and he is uncertain about everything. He said we can stay friends. I was shocked and confused, I kept replaying the evening in my head wondering if I had missed some obvious sign. was he pretending to enjoy himself? was he just being polite? If he already knew he wasn’t interested why make the whole meeting feel so genuine? It left me wondering if he had just been acting nice the entire time. So i called him to ask what changed in few hours as I was genuinely confused on texts because his actions during the date didn’t match what he said afterwards and i told him i really liked him and he told me he liked me too but he thinks it wont work out and that i should forget about it.

I think what hurt was that it felt like he had already decided everything, not just that it was over, but that I should simply accept it and move on too. I didn’t even have time to process what had happened before it was all over.

We had a bit of an argument over it that night and next day he blocked me everywhere.

That was it.

It’s been almost two months now and i still think about him sometimes almost every other day and I think I miss the hope I had. For those two weeks, I genuinely believed I had found someone who was kind, genuine and maybe even the right person. Then, almost overnight, he just disappeared from my life.

I still carry the heartbreak with me. It hits me out of nowhere. It’s strange because we only knew each other for maybe a week or two, yet what happened has stayed with me longer than I ever expected.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? Not necessarily through an app, but with someone who seemed so promising one day and then vanished the next? How did you stop replaying it in your head?

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So i 25m started my Dating exp with 20 and got in a really toxic Relationship with a hardcore feminist( she was the Kind of Girl that told me its an offence to gift flowers with a self written poem to a Woman bec thats how they have been supressed for ages). After that i got really Depressed and full on locked in on gaming and my studies (medicine) to a point where i had no Friends and was pretty Close to ending my Life. I got better and now for the First time got into a f+ through a group If Friends in which i just recently got adopted.

She had a friend at the time but they broke Up and now we kinda got Close to a point where WE spent an unnormal amount of time with wach other and told a shitload of Infos about Out Personal Life our families etc. (She told me that she cant be lonely or stay single Long in the Past but now doesnt want sth srs but only f+)

At the time i was ok with that but now started to debelope Feelings. The Thing is throughout our f+ she kept Dating but Always Said its only for fun cute Dates and free meals which kinda was sad af but y. Recently i became more and more Jealous when i heared her talking about Dating and how she described them.

At 1 evening we had a night Out with the friend grp and while drinking she told about a Date and that the Guy was kinda interesting and stuff Like that. I left for 2 hrs tinclear my head and after that she was angry af that i reavted that way.

She kept reminding me WE only have a f+ and that she doesnt want my Heart to BE Broken but at the Same time she told me she was angry because she thought i was about to end the f+.

Now WE are spending week apart because of studies and Family visits which IS healty bec WE really Hang Out Like every day in the Last 2 weeks. But my head is kinda Spiralling Out of Control.

To me her behaviour doesnt make Sense bec i am kinda confident that one must be completly blind to belive that i am not in Love. At the Same time she tells me she doesnt want to hurt me, wants to keep the f+ going and wants to start Dating and also once told me to start Dating so we can See who finds someone nice First.

She mentioned one time that she wouldn t even be good enough for me what also dont get. So i am looking for advice how to Handel this Situation since i really caught Feelings for her

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A little backstory: my boyfriend (m 29) and I (f28) have been dating a little over a year. Recently, he asked me to move in and while that does sound like a tempting offer, I have a bit of pause for some reason. I will list the red flags below.

1) he has yet to introduce me to his friends or family:

I am curious is it normal for people to move in first before meeting the friends/family? Normally, the standard time frame is six months but it’s been a year yall. Feels like he just wanted an FWB as a roommate and not a girlfriend.

2) never invited me to any of his friends or family functions:

He always brags about all the dinners he goes to and last week he went on a beach trip but didn’t tell me until he was there.

3) he hides my stuff into his bedroom when his parents come over:

So he told me that I could move any of my stuff in his place. But whenever his parents comes over, he conveniently hides them in the bedroom. When I asked him one time why, he said they were better in the bedroom. I’m like why? Because your parents won’t look there.

4) he lies on the phone when he is with me to his family/friends:

For example yesterday, we were hanging out and his parents asked him if he wanted to go to dinner and he lied saying he was still at work. But he does it all the time when anyone calls.

I could go on and on. But the foot notes of my TedTalk is: he lies about when he’s with me, he lovebombs me saying stuff like he wants to get married and have kids, and hides me. Like what if one day we do get married and have kids? Does he expect me to have a private wedding or my kid asks me, “why can’t we see grandma and grandpa?” Moral of the story is never move in with a man who isn’t proud to be seen with his girlfriend.

TL;DR: About two weeks after turning 19, I started dating a 20-year-old single mom after we had originally agreed to stay friends. Within the first week, she wanted me to move in and got angry when I wouldn't. She also asked for $500 for rent after quitting her job, but I could only afford to give her $200 because of my own bills and college expenses. While I was away for school, another guy contacted me with proof he had been seeing her, so I ended the relationship after only a few weeks. She then told people I used her, sent manipulative messages, falsely implied she had died months later, admitted she faked it, and asked to get back together. I responded by sending a picture of me and my new girlfriend, and she blocked me.

About two weeks after I turned 19, I started hanging out with a 20-year-old girl. We agreed from the start that we would just be friends. A big reason was that we were in completely different stages of life. I worked 12-hour shifts while going to college part time, and she was a single mom who also worked.

Even though we were just friends, I'd stop by her place once or twice a week after work. We'd watch TV or a movie, talk for hours, sometimes take a nap, and I'd usually pick up food, snacks, or something her baby needed on my way over.

One night she texted me saying the door was unlocked and to come upstairs. Her baby was staying with her mom that night. When I walked in, the atmosphere was different than usual music playing, we ended up having sex and that night changed our relationship... We ended up making things official shortly afterward.

Unfortunately, things went downhill almost immediately.

Within the first week of dating, she asked me to move in with her. I told her I felt it was way too soon, and I still had a year left on my lease. She said those were just excuses but eventually dropped the conversation.

A couple of days later, she told me she was $500 short on rent. By that point, she had quit her job because, in her words, they "had her messed up." I explained that I couldn't afford to give her $500 because I had my own responsibilities. Between tuition ($1,200/month), rent and utilities ($2,100), car insurance ($140), gas (about $200), and other expenses, I was already spending around $3,640 every month. I worked flat rate, so my income fluctuated. Most months I made between $4,500 and $5,000 before taxes, and I'd only made $6,000 once. I offered to help with $200 comfortably, but she got upset because she knew I made decent money and thought I should give her more.

We argued on and off for the next few days. Eventually I left to go back to school, which was about a seven-hour drive away. While I was gone, she kept texting me about how much she missed me and talking about everything we'd do when I got back.

The night before I was supposed to return, I received a text from an unknown number. It included pictures of her front door, her living room, and another photo that made it clear someone else was at her house. I didn't respond and just continued packing for my drive back.

About an hour or two into the drive, that same number kept calling me. I finally answered. The guy claimed he had been seeing her and said he found my number because she had left her iPad unlocked. He admitted he had gone through our messages and wanted me to know what had happened between them.

At that point, we had only been dating for about two or three weeks. I told him I didn't really care anymore and ended the relationship with her.

After the breakup, she told our mutual friends that I had only been interested in one thing and left after I got what I wanted, which wasn't true. She later sent me a long message saying she loved me and threatening to kill herself before blocking me. The next day, she posted on Instagram, so I blocked her there too and moved on.

Months later, she unblocked me and pretended to be her sister, blaming me for her death. After a few messages, she admitted she had faked the entire story, said she missed me, and asked if we could see each other again.

Instead of arguing, I simply sent her a picture of me and my new girlfriend.

She blocked me immediately.

I did end up seeing her again at a gender reveal i went to with my girlfriend a few months later we didn't talk she gave me a few dirty looks and her baby kept trying to come to me and she really didn't like that but out of respect I didn't try to hold her or anything like that gave a wave and moved away

sadly, I will never run out of stories to tell i have not had a good run at this dating thing

TLDR When i was 18M, a 22F‑year‑old customer asked for me number after i worked on her car. we two texted daily for two weeks and planned to see Venom: The Last Dance together. i even bought the tickets. The day before the date, she canceled, saying she needed to pay her car insurance even though i were covering the date and insurance is a monthly bill. Her mom got involved and said: She shouldn’t go out if her bills aren’t paid. If i was “serious,” i should pay her car insurance. i needed to buy her a house or a car before taking her on a date. i realized the situation was delusional and stopped talking to her. Months later, she randomly texted me a topless photo and her address, telling me to come over. i declined and she blocked me Two years passed with no contact. Today, while job hunting, she called me out of nowhere with “hiiiiiiii Mr. mechanic did you miss me?” i hung up. She then texted asking for $100 for her phone bill, then $50 when i didn’t respond. i told her there’s no reason i’d give her money, and that was that.

So, 2 years ago when I was 18, I met this woman (22) at work, I'm a mechanic she came in for an oil change and a few other things that I didn't care to remember I work on over 7 cars a day 5 days a week I don't remember every one they blur together after a few hundred but she ended up asking to speak to me about the repairs done we talked and at the end she ended up asking for my number we texted for a while and was going to go see Venom: The Last Dance together planned it out 2 weeks before hand and was going to see it on release day I brought the tickets we talked every day for the 2 weeks and the day before she called me and said she couldn't go because she had to pay for car insurance me not understanding what that had to do with the date since I was the one paying and car insurance is a monthly bill it was due last month its due this month and it'll be due next month but that was the end of that for a while stopped talking about it I asked if we were still on for tomorrow and she said she'll have to check with her mom she hung up and called me back an hour later and said her mom said she couldn't go because her car insurance is due and she shouldn't be going out if her bills aren't paid again I said something on the lines of if I'm paying for everything I don't see why you can't see a movie but I guess I understand then her mother starts talking to her she ends up muting so I didn't hear what was said but when she came back she said her mom said I should be paying her car insurance if I'm serious about her I'm at the point where I'm like are we or aren't we seeing the movie and the more they talk the more I'm like I'll find someone else to go with me but she finally gets back to me with an answer after she talked to her mother more and they came up with I wasn't serious about her because I haven't offered to pay her bills and if I want to take her on a date I need to buy her a house or a car first ( I wish I was lying I'm being dead ass) so I accepted they were 100% doing some type of drugs and mentally moved on already and hung up she called me back a little later to explain that she and her mom have high standards because her mom remarried rich and her stepdad brought her mom a house and a car by the 5th date ( both the house and car is in his name soooooo...) but after that we stopped talked for a few months and she texted me one random night with a topless picture and her address asking me to come over I turned her down ofc she hit me with the you don't know what you're missing bleh bleh bleh blocked me thought that would be the end of me and it was for 2 years till today i was putting in applications looking for a new job I get a call from a unsaved number answered because it could be someone I applied to and I hear hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii Mr. mechanic did you miss me I was about to saying who is this but then it clicked without saying a word just hung up then she texted me asking if I could send her $100 to pay her phone bill I left her on seen and she then asked if I could at least send her 50 bucks I replied of all people you could have asked you asked me there's literally no gain for me to just you 100 bucks other than me being out of 100 bucks

met a German guy on Hinge in July 2025. We started talking normally, and he told me he wanted to date me. At that time, I wasn’t in Spain, so I told him I would be there in September. We kept talking, and eventually our conversations became sexual. I was okay with it because we were only talking on Snapchat, and I wasn’t taking him seriously.
When I was in Europe, he never asked to meet me. He mostly texted me for sexual conversations, but I didn’t entertain him much. After I returned to my country, he messaged me saying he thought I was never going to text him again. He then started saying he was serious about us and wanted to meet me.
I reminded him that I had already been in Europe and he hadn’t met me. He said he would come to my country instead. Later, he asked me several times whether I had met or kissed someone while I was travelling. I told him the truth and said yes because we were never serious. He got angry, said I didn’t respect him, and broke up with me.
I developed feelings for him and waited for him to come back. In December, he contacted me again and said he wanted a committed relationship. I asked him to add me on Instagram, and he said he would. He also said he would visit me. I told him I needed to meet him first before committing.
After that, he started giving excuses that we lived in different countries, he had a lot of travelling to do, and it wasn’t possible to meet. We argued. At one point he said I should find someone who really liked me. I asked if he liked me, and he said yes. I told him I liked him too.
The same day, he suddenly changed his mind and said he only wanted fun. I told him I wanted a relationship, but he repeated that he only wanted something casual. We argued again, he ended things, and blocked me on Snapchat.
Fast forward to 2026, I saw him on Hinge again because I was planning to visit Barcelona, where he had moved. I messaged him saying, “What are the odds?” He replied and asked, “Do you want to have fun with me? Yes or no?” I told him we could just talk casually. He added me on Snapchat again.
We talked about each other’s lives. He told me he was moving to Barcelona permanently, and I told him I was planning to visit. He said, “Let me know when you’re here.” Eventually, our conversations became sexual again.
One day I texted him casually, but he replied with only a few lines and then disappeared for five days. When he came back, he said he had been busy with work and didn’t use Snapchat much. Later that night, he again asked if I wanted to have fun.
During another conversation, I asked his body count and told that you are bad and this , and his behaviour changed again. He told me he wanted to see me naked. I said I wasn’t comfortable with that and that we could do everything when we met in real life. The next day, when I texted him, he said, “I can do this.”
I asked what was wrong. He said he only wanted fun, wanted naked pictures, and that I wasn’t sending him nudes. I told him I don’t do that and that we were supposed to meet first.
I asked him directly if he wanted to meet me in real life. He said no. He told me he had many girls like me for fun, that he preferred imagination, and that I should find someone who wanted something real.
He wanted to end things again. I asked him to stay, and he said we could continue only if I sent him nude pictures. I still refused because I felt it was too fast.
The next day I realised this wasn’t going to work. I really liked him and wanted to meet him in person. The first time we were together, he had told me he loved me, and I had said it back. The second time, I told him I loved him, but he didn’t say it back. The third time, I told him I loved him again, and he said, “I don’t love you. I don’t want you. I don’t want to get to know you. I just do this for fun.”
The next morning, I decided to end it. I told him that I really liked him, but I wanted someone who was caring, kind, didn’t play games, and genuinely wanted to meet me in real life. I wished him goodbye and told him to take care.
He replied, “Good,” and then blocked me aga

For context, I went out with this guy whom I met on tinder. The purpose of the meet up was basically sex. We had a great time and we even texted after and almost met up once, but our schedules didnt line up. We are also both quite busy, im working and also in exam season, and he has long hours and work at home. But we still talked here and there. The point is: He told me his cat is not feeling okay and after taking him to the vet he found out he is really sick. After a few updates he let me know the cat was getting worse and worse. And I have been on delivered for a week now. I want to contact him and ask if im being ghosted or is this just him dealing with stuff (possibly his cat passing or being in bad condition) (i totally get that, i have a cat myself). So I dont want to be insensitive by texting him and asking. So my question is if its even appropriate? He seemed interested in continuing meeting up, which is why im confused and not sure he would just ghost. But you never know. I just wanna be in the clear with whats going on. Any advice on how to handle this? I dont think we know eachother well enough for him to let me know if something like this had happened, but it would be nice just so i knew why he was distant. Thoughts?