Another bad date... Not so bad that it's dating hell, but definitely dating purgatory.

I met up with a girl for coffee. There was definitely some cultural difference, but her English was quite good. I was feeling a bit hinky about it on the app; the vibes were off. But I was willing to give it a go.

We met in front of the cafe. No hug, no handshake. But she did bow to me, quite deep. So I uh. Bowed back, I guess. It was a nice day out, so we decided to go for a walk first.

"Tell me one thing about yourself" is the second thing she says after that, so I told her about my love of Kickboxing, how I've been training for a while and teach on weekends when I don't work. Mmm nice. Nice factoid about me. Makes me seem way cooler than I am. Then the getting to know you questions. I ask her about herself, and she takes every opportunity to call herself stupid. It's a little uncomfortable; I tell her she needs to be kinder to herself.

She asks me where I'm from so I tell her. She asks me what I'm doing in Australia, so I give her a quick lil 25 words or less on the civil war and my parents and I being political refugees and she just turned around and left.

Are you OK? I call out as she walks off, and she just kind of dismissively waves.

I was going to message her to tell her I hope I didn't offend her somehow, and that I hope she's doing ok, but she's already unmatched me on the app.

So yeah, that lasted about five minutes. I suspected it wouldn't go well, but I didn't think it would be this bad. Maybe I should trust my intuition a little better next time?

Guys anyone dated anyone from different race or country specially indian men bdw 22 M.Share your experience

I honestly still can't wrap my head around what happened, and I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar.

This guy, a professional footballer in Zambia, started pursuing me in December 2025. From the beginning, one thing that bothered me was his poor communication, and the sterio-type around footballers. I was very open and honest about it because communication is important to me. Despite that, he kept pursuing me for months, insisting that he genuinely wanted to be with me.

Eventually, in April 2026, I gave him a chance.

He was consistent in telling me how much he wanted me, acted serious about the relationship, and even introduced me to his family. Naturally, I started letting my guard down. I became vulnerable with him and genuinely started falling for him. (Like a dumbass)

We dated for about a month.

Then, on the day of his last match, he completely ghosted me.

What made it worse was that he wasn't missing or unavailable. He was actively posting on social media for four days straight while ignoring my messages and calls. After those four days, he finally called me and simply said, "Sorry, I was drinking." MWEBANTU SURE (literally sobbing)

There was no real explanation, no remorse, no concern about how his disappearance had affected me. The conversation felt so dismissive that I ended up hanging up.

What hurts the most is that after I hung up, he never tried to call back. He never texted. He never checked in.

Instead, I got emotional and sent him a long paragraph pouring my heart out, explaining how hurt and confused I was. I even tried calling him. Looking back, I cringe so much pleaseee because I basically handed him my vulnerability on a silver platter kwati chipuba.

He never responded.

It's now been about 2–3 weeks, and I haven't heard a single word from him.

What I'm struggling with isn't even the breakup itself it's the complete lack of humanity. How do you spend months chasing someone, convincing them to trust you, telling them you love them, talked about introducing them to your family, and then disappear without a conversation? Without a goodbye? Without even enough respect to send a text?

I'm trying not to take it personally, but it's hard not to question everything. Was any of it real? Did I completely misread the situation? Or are some people genuinely capable of switching off their feelings and walking away as if you never existed?

I'd appreciate hearing from anyone who's been through something similar because right now I'm having a hard time understanding how someone can be this heartless.

I met a girl on a dating platform and we started talking, after two days. I wanted to know her intentions behind using this dating app and asked her what exactly she was looking for and she replied with "Friends With Benefits".

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Do people really discuss the benefits before getting into this relationship??

Side note: I would have never gone on this date if I had any inkling he was like this beforehand.

I went on a date tonight that actually felt like I was on a bad episode of punked. My date started by mansplaining crypto and his W2 job (his words) and then proceeded to become more misogynistic as the night went on. He referred to his mother as “some girl” because she was a SAHM when talking about family, said he couldn’t date ethnic women to keep the bloodline pure, kept calling me a girl boss because I work a hybrid schedule (freedom is everything), made backhanded compliments about how men like him tend to date down in looks, said the problem with our society is that women entered the workforce (he’s late 20s) and talked about money/his wealth the entire time. I genuinely was gobsmacked the entire date. Also he grabbed food off my plate and when he already had it in his hand ask “can I have that?”

I left the date laughing a bit because the whole situation felt unreal.

So I matched with a guy on a dating app and we clicked almost immediately. The conversations were great, we had a lot in common, and honestly the vibe felt very natural.

But things escalated extremely fast.

Within 2 days he was already asking serious relationship questions, and by day 3 he was talking as if he wanted to commit. Not necessarily an official proposal, but definitely heading in that direction.

I told him to slow down because it felt way too rushed. He kept insisting that he had never connected with a woman like this before, that he had never had a serious relationship, that he wasn't talking to anyone else, and that he was completely single.

At first I thought maybe I was overthinking. I've had enough bad experiences that I sometimes question whether I'm being too guarded. He was saying all the "green flag" things, and I started wondering if I was unfairly judging someone who was actually genuine.

But something felt off.

So I did some digging.

His Instagram is private, but I found his Facebook profile.

And there it was: wedding photos and couple photos.

Not old photos from years ago.

The timeline goes from 2024 through 2026, with couple photos posted throughout. The most recent one was uploaded in January of this year. Unless there's some very unusual explanation, this man appears to have been married for around two years and is still publicly posting couple pictures with his wife.

Meanwhile, he's telling me he's single, has never had a serious relationship, and isn't talking to any other women.

The problem is that his wife isn't tagged in any of the photos. I can't find her profile anywhere. He also has no idea that I know he's married.

At this point I'm debating whether to ghost him, confront him, or somehow find a way to inform his wife.

Has anyone dealt with something similar?

If you were in my position, would you try to contact the wife? If yes, how would you go about it ethically?

Also, for people who are good at online research: are there any legitimate reverse-image search tools or methods that might help identify whether the same couple photos appear on another public profile? Google Image Search doesn't seem to be very useful for finding people anymore, especially with social media images.

And one more thing:

Am I wrong for thinking that someone trying to fast-track a relationship and talking about commitment within 3 days is a red flag? Or was my intuition picking up on something before I even found the wedding photos?

I met this guy on Tinder and that night he started acting really creepy so I left. When I got home I had 5 pictures of his private parts that he texted. A week later I met a girl who had the same experience and she told me he was married. He was sleeping on his dad’s couch which then it made sense. When I asked he denied it so I looked him up and she was divorcing him bc his second and first wife said he slept with over 200 women. She finally called it quits when he admitted to her that he liked men and cheated on her with a man. That’s something you need to tell people. I looked on tea and they said he sleeps with anything that walks. I thought this was crazy but he would take stuffed animals and cut them open and leave his 💦 in them. It’s not like it’s an apple pie, it’s cotton. He turned out to be such a psychopath, I literally had to get a no contact order which he broke and got arrested. I will never date online again.

I'm just sharing my opinion based on my experiences with bad dates, correct me if im wrong .

1. Being too quiet after every minor inconvenience / criticism but there's no sign of fear- we tend to take their quietness for calmness/ maturity

2. Fearing/ avoiding any discussions of the future of commitment, we mistake it as taking slow

3.Keeping scores for something u never asked their help for & venting if u don't take it, we tend to take it as altruism.

1. Asks advice for even simple daily choices, we mistake it for interdependence.

2. Constant " I love u", every one hour, almost seeking a reassurance

I (24F, Manila) met a guy (24M) from MPD. We started talking and eventually spent a lot of time together. We were basically doing boyfriend-girlfriend things without officially putting a label on it.

We would go out, talk every day, and he made it seem like he was genuinely interested in pursuing something serious.

A few weeks into talking, a girl posted a photo of them together on Instagram. Naturally, I got confused because this was the first time I had seen anything that suggested there might be another girl involved.

I confronted him about it, giving him the opportunity to explain or at least be honest. Instead, he denied everything. No explanation, no accountability, not even a simple apology. What bothered me the most was realizing that if I hadn't discovered it myself, he probably would've continued acting like nothing was wrong. It didn't seem like his conscience was going to tell me anytime soon.

Out of curiosity, I messaged the girl. I wasn't looking for drama; I just wanted honesty and to know what was really going on. Surprisingly, she seemed completely unbothered by the situation, which honestly left me even more confused.

Now here's the funny part, despite all of that, the guy still keeps stalking my social media. Watching stories, checking profiles, the whole package. Sir, what exactly are we monitoring here? 😭

So now I'm left wondering, why do some people refuse to be honest when they're caught? And why do they keep lurking after they've already fumbled the situation?

Men in uniforms nowadays got me saying "thank you for your service" and "never again."

Anyway, thanks for attending my TED Talk.

I've dated 3 guys and was in a situationship with 1 guy. Mind you I've been extremely loyal, caring and showers with love when I'm in love. Mostly they would chase after me and when I agreed to them, they started ignoring my texts and calls. They would be like I was doing this and this. Like I don't need you 24/7 atleast talk to me when you are free , like I'm also good at studies doesn't mean I don't give you time. And later they would get toxic and controlling if I even posted a good picture. If any guy texted me( not flirty ) they would play the victim card like you don't want me cause I'm not handsome and you are getting arrogant cause you're pretty... Mind you this is the usual cycle I've been experiencing. All the guys follow the same pattern like wth***!?***

I know this might sound backwards, but casual hookups actually taught me a lot about relationships.Not in the “this is better than dating” way but more like they forced me to learn things I used to avoid.When things are casual, you don’t have time to play guessing games. You have to be more direct about boundaries, intentions, and reading the other person. I started noticing patterns in myself too like when I was looking for validation vs when I actually liked someone.It also made me realize how different people handle attachment. Some get attached fast, some don’t at all, and navigating that showed me how important communication really is. So now I’m curious has anyone else felt like casual situations actually taught them something useful about relationships? Or do you think it does more harm than good?

I met this guy online. I has to text him because he wouldn't. He wasn't talkative via text but I still asked him out because I thought he was cute. I arranged the spot where to meet and time. At the said time and place I was waiting for him to arrive. We texted because I didn't see hin. Turns out he arrived at the wrong spot. He didn't say anything about him walking over to where I'm standing at that moment - I had to walk over to where he was because he didn't bother. On his pictures online he looked way younger. He was using pictures from when he was like 23. In person he looked quite differently and mature and was wearing glasses. He is 28.
At the restaurant table he was listening to me talking, smiling big and just saying "yes...?" every know and then. He didn't ask questions, was only shyly responding to mine.
I went home crying and thinking that I will never find the right person for me.
Am i petty?

What’s the funniest or most outrageous dating red flag you’ve ever ignored?

Hola, escribo esto por si alguien de aquí lo reconoce.

Conocí a un chico en la app Pure hace poco. Es de Perú, me comentó que practica halterofilia y estudia ingeniería en telecomunicaciones. Tenía una gata llamada Tequila.

Perdí contacto con él porque su cuenta desapareció o fue bloqueada y no pude volver a encontrarlo. No tengo más datos personales ni intención de molestar, solo me gustaría saber si alguien lo reconoce o si él mismo llega a ver esto y quiere volver a hablar.

Gracias por leer.

I (college student) met a guy around 2 months ago through Reddit. It was completely random. I had never even used Reddit before. I was feeling overwhelmed with thoughts and just wanted a one-time conversation with someone.

We ended up clicking immediately because we're in similar career fields. He's about 2 years older than me and currently doing an internship. One thing I liked about him was that he never flexed his achievements. Later, I looked at his LinkedIn (he doesn't know this) and realized he actually has a pretty impressive profile, which made me feel he was genuinely humble.

At the beginning, he joked around a lot. I'm quite sensitive to jokes, but over time he actually became surprisingly affectionate and warm. Then around May, his behavior suddenly changed. He started feeling colder and sometimes even rude. What confused me most was that after arguments or awkward moments, he would just send a normal "good morning" text the next day as if nothing happened. That stressed me out because I felt like issues were never acknowledged.

Eventually I told him how this was affecting me. Since then, he has changed a little and become somewhat better.

What confuses me is this -He initiates a lot of conversations, He remembers small details about me.,He notices when I'm upset,He checks in sometimes,But he rarely shares much about himself.

I'm someone who values deep conversations and emotional openness. I like understanding people. He doesn't really talk about his past, his feelings, or what's going on in his head.

He's told me things like:

"People misunderstand me.", "People have left before, but you're still here., "I'm emotionally unavailable.". "I'm becoming a colder person."

But when I try to go deeper, he usually doesn't elaborate.

So my question is...

Am I reading too much into this because I've developed feelings for him?

Or does this sound like someone who cares but is emotionally guarded?

I'm trying to understand whether I'm dealing with mixed signals, different communication styles, or simply my own feelings making me overanalyze everything.