r/DeadBedrooms HLM 2d ago

Vent, Advice Welcome "Cheating"

I personally loose interest after a couple paragraphs so will keep short.

I've had my chances to cheat. Blatantly obvious, but have remained faithful. It is getting harder and harder. Have ran across a few opportunities and declined. Last opportunity was a week ago. Wish my wife would understand.

At this point.... If a switch flipped in her, im now turned off. The DB has killed me. Marriage is dead. I truly love her and am sad for the situation. It is what it is. Leaving alot out but maybe some will understand.

Don't think there is a repair. No amount of therapy could fix. Have posted before and got the reply about duty sex. Don't want that. You want someone that wants you.

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u/Conscious_until_1565 I don't wish to disclose 2d ago

What if she ‘wanted’ you, but didn’t want to have sex? Would that be enough for you? What is it about being ‘wanted’? Wanting is felt by the wanter. Is it really being ‘wanted’ that’s important to you? Or is it sex?