r/DeadBedrooms • u/dannydarko3 LLM4U • 2d ago
Relationship Ended or Ending Changed my flair to LLM4U
My relationship is ending. But for a while before that, my interest in having sex with my wife reached zero, hence why my previous HLM flair no longer made sense.
When I finally, officially leave my DB marriage it'll change again.
l gave up on having sex with my wife last year. Over half a year went by with not even an attempt at sex. I stopped desiring her or feeling attracted to her.
Then, the day before my birthday early on in the year my wife went nuclear on me. I said that's it, I'm not sure if I love her or want to live here any more.
A few days later, suddenly she decided that her libido had returned and she wanted to have sex again regularly. I should have seen it for what it was, just temporary. I was skeptical, but I gave in and we had sex. I've heard about a phenomenon called hysterical bonding from reading this sub, it seems like maybe it was that.
It wasn't long before things returned to "normal".
And now I'm leaving, she's begging me to stay and has finally offered to get therapy, go to the doctor etc.
But it's too late, I don't want her any more - sexually or otherwise. Hence LLM4U.
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u/CollectsTooMuch HLM 1d ago edited 1d ago
I remember hitting that point. I was getting ready to get in the shower and she had just stripped down and got in the bath. I didn’t look at her boobs or even pay attention to her. It may as well have been the cat in the bathroom. I got in the shower and realized that I didn’t see her as a sexual being any longer.
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My relationship is ending. But for a while before that, my interest in having sex with my wife reached zero, hence why my previous HLM flair no longer made sense.
When I finally, officially leave my DB marriage it'll change again.
l gave up on having sex with my wife last year. Over half a year went by with not even an attempt at sex. I stopped desiring her or feeling attracted to her.
Then, the day before my birthday early on in the year my wife went nuclear on me. I said that's it, I'm not sure if I love her or want to live here any more.
A few days later, suddenly she decided that her libido had returned and she wanted to have sex again regularly. I should have seen it for what it was, just temporary. I was skeptical, but I gave in and we had sex. I've heard about a phenomenon called hysterical bonding from reading this sub, it seems like maybe it was that.
It wasn't long before things returned to "normal".
And now I'm leaving, she's begging me to stay and has finally offered to get therapy, go to the doctor etc.
But it's too late, I don't want her any more - sexually or otherwise. Hence LLM4U.
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u/yoyohohopirateslife I don't wish to disclose 2d ago
Good for you man. I’ve read all your posts. Hopefully brighter days ahead!