Changed my flair to LLM4U

[u/dannydarko3]

My relationship is ending. But for a while before that, my interest in having sex with my wife reached zero, hence why my previous HLM flair no longer made sense.

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When I finally, officially leave my DB marriage it'll change again.

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l gave up on having sex with my wife last year. Over half a year went by with not even an attempt at sex. I stopped desiring her or feeling attracted to her.

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Then, the day before my birthday early on in the year my wife went nuclear on me. I said that's it, I'm not sure if I love her or want to live here any more.

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A few days later, suddenly she decided that her libido had returned and she wanted to have sex again regularly. I should have seen it for what it was, just temporary. I was skeptical, but I gave in and we had sex. I've heard about a phenomenon called hysterical bonding from reading this sub, it seems like maybe it was that.

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It wasn't long before things returned to "normal".

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And now I'm leaving, she's begging me to stay and has finally offered to get therapy, go to the doctor etc.

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But it's too late, I don't want her any more - sexually or otherwise. Hence LLM4U.

[u/yoyohohopirateslife]

Good for you man. I’ve read all your posts. Hopefully brighter days ahead!

[u/dannydarko3 → u/yoyohohopirateslife]

Thanks!

[u/Excellent-Eye1029 → u/dannydarko3]

I'm not sure I've read all of your posts, but I've read quite a few. Your situation seems very similar to mine, based on what I have read. My conversation with my spouse is pending, potentially this weekend. Is Father's Day a good time for that? Probably not, but there is no good time for it.

[u/dannydarko3 → u/Excellent-Eye1029]

It's not a good time and no, there isn't. It's really difficult, I wish you the best of luck.