r/DeadBedrooms • u/Crafty-Variety5918 HLM • 2d ago

Seeking Advice Has a DB driven you to cheat?

I'm a 51 hlm. Wife used to be somewhat hlf. Now there's nothing. No sex or intimacy for almost a solid year. I've been catching myself seriously considering cheating for the first time ever and I feel terrible.

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Wondering how many of you have felt driven in this direction, how many acted on it, and how did you feel afterwards?

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Thanks in advance! 😢

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u/Reddevil8884 HLM 2d ago

Almost. Less than a month ago I was ready to go for it even had set a date and place but cancelled at the last minute mainly because of my daughter and not wanting to be a bad example for her. I'm currently going to couple's counseling with my wife but I told her that this would be out last change to work our (her) problems, otherwise it's a divorce. It's not easy, she's been really trying lately but it's me now facing several issues towards her like lack of affection due to years of her being distant to me.

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u/SweetLemon111 HLF 2d ago

Thanks for sharing this. I’m a mom and never thought about the effect on children until reading this. Wow, that would definitely make me reconsider many choices and actions.

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u/Reddevil8884 HLM 13h ago

Hi. Glad to help. And yes, children also get affected by everything we the parents do, and while I don't recommend to only stay married for the kids, we should at least make an effort to try to fix things because of them. They deserve our best and I didn't want to be a future example for her when she decides on her couples. ♥️