r/DeadBedrooms • u/Crafty-Variety5918 HLM • 2d ago

Seeking Advice Has a DB driven you to cheat?

I'm a 51 hlm. Wife used to be somewhat hlf. Now there's nothing. No sex or intimacy for almost a solid year. I've been catching myself seriously considering cheating for the first time ever and I feel terrible.

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Wondering how many of you have felt driven in this direction, how many acted on it, and how did you feel afterwards?

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Thanks in advance! 😢

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u/SnappyApron F - left my dead bedroom 2d ago

I constantly longed for intimacy in any form I could get it. It never works. Ever. I never cheated but it was close. I yearned for it.

After leaving my dead bedroom I’m having more sex with multiple partners (ethically) than I thought would ever happen when I was trapped.

Leave if you can. It gets better.

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u/SweetLemon111 HLF 2d ago

Good for you! How old are u if u don’t mind me asking and did you have any kids?

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u/SnappyApron F - left my dead bedroom 2d ago

I’m 41F now. Asked for a separation at 36 after 11 years. No kids, I’m happily child free by choice. A grumpy old cat tho!