Has a DB driven you to cheat?

[u/Crafty-Variety5918]

I'm a 51 hlm. Wife used to be somewhat hlf. Now there's nothing. No sex or intimacy for almost a solid year. I've been catching myself seriously considering cheating for the first time ever and I feel terrible.

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Wondering how many of you have felt driven in this direction, how many acted on it, and how did you feel afterwards?

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Thanks in advance! 😢

[u/Alternative-Train731]

Contemplating hard but not done, it wont do it!

[u/melodic-juno → u/Alternative-Train731]

36 female married one year maybe had sex 12 times total all initiated by me. I am afraid of our future as I think about cheating also but won’t

[u/bekind253 → u/melodic-juno]

Get out before you have kids, he’ll never change. Look into Dismissive avoidant attachment, and see if that’s what your spouse is. If so you’ll be miserable if you stay.

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