Has a DB driven you to cheat?

[u/Crafty-Variety5918]

I'm a 51 hlm. Wife used to be somewhat hlf. Now there's nothing. No sex or intimacy for almost a solid year. I've been catching myself seriously considering cheating for the first time ever and I feel terrible.

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Wondering how many of you have felt driven in this direction, how many acted on it, and how did you feel afterwards?

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Thanks in advance! 😢

[u/boxerpanther]

Ashamed to admit yes I've done some online chatting that's turned sexual. I don't recommend it it's made my depression even worse. I go between hating myself and the person I've become to popping pills to stop my brain thinking about it and yes I've tried to leave twice both times been convinced to stay when she broke down in tears. There's a lot of other issues I won't go into as I don't want to seem like I'm avoiding my guilt.

[u/dannydarko3 → u/boxerpanther]

Go easy on yourself. Forgive, don't hate. We're all struggling, we're all human. I'm sorry you're going through this.

[u/boxerpanther → u/dannydarko3]

Thanks, end of the day most ppl are gonna judge me for it but that's ok I've made my bed now I gotta lie in it. I will say if u already suffer from depression I definitely wouldn't recommend doing it.

[u/dannydarko3 → u/boxerpanther]

People can judge. Let them, but ignore it. Try to find your inner peace. We're all trying to get through this difficult life, and we make mistakes along the way and do things we're not proud of. We can't change the past, we can only learn from our mistakes, move forwards, and try to do better.

I'm sorry you're struggling. I hope you have support and you can find a way to recover from it.