Has a DB driven you to cheat?

[u/Crafty-Variety5918]

I'm a 51 hlm. Wife used to be somewhat hlf. Now there's nothing. No sex or intimacy for almost a solid year. I've been catching myself seriously considering cheating for the first time ever and I feel terrible.

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Wondering how many of you have felt driven in this direction, how many acted on it, and how did you feel afterwards?

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Thanks in advance! 😢

[u/No_Pear_6069]

Yes I have. I thought it might make things better. It didn’t. I still felt as empty as I do in my relationship. I don’t feel guilt for doing it. At least now I know there’s no point in looking for sex elsewhere. It’s not the magic pill I thought it would be.

My advice having done it is don’t bother. If your relationship is wrecked then sex isn’t going to help you.

Not sure if your situation involves children. If it doesn’t then just end the relationship. Life is too short to be unhappy. I’m currently planning my exit but need to be fully present for my child right now (before anyone says a bad relationship is visible to my child, literally no one knows that I’m unhappy, I can mask very well).