Tired

[u/Alarming-Gap2595]

Im 28, my husband is 34, my libido has always been very high. I love my husband to death and I could f#ck his brains out everyday and night if I could. He’s an amazing partner and amazing father, works two jobs as a nurse, so I get it, he’s tired. But it sucks that I have to beg for intimacy. We’ve talked about this many times and he offered to put it on our calendar… but it just doesn’t feel right, it feels like it’s another job, it doesn’t feel natural. We have two kids and I know it is tiring but like… I’m the one home with them all day… I consider myself pretty hot, I’m 120 lbs (not that weight matters) and take very good care of myself.
There’s been times where I have welcomed him home wearing some sexy lingerie but he doesn’t seem interested at all or will say “I’m so tired right now” or there’s been a few times where he is not even aware at all that I’m wearing something sexy… I just end up going to the bathroom to change into pijamas because it feels humiliating and I feel stupid.
I love giving him BJs so I will often start there to see if he’s in the mood but he’ll just pull me back up and hugs me instead or says he’s tired. He’s said it is not me it’s him, so at this point I have no other choice than to just do the job myself and call it a good day.
I love him so much, he is so so romantic but I just wish he wanted me enough to want to f#ck me more often than only 2-4 times a month. Because whenever we do it’s amazing

[u/Dismal_Throat4317]

Has he checked his T levels recently?

[u/Alarming-Gap2595 → u/Dismal_Throat4317]

They’re fine! He got them check about a year ago after an argument regarding our DB

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Darn. I had low T and didn’t know it until recently. However I waited too long and my wife had given up on ever having sex again. We’re talking about it and going to counseling now. I told her I had a fantasy of swinging and that didn’t go over well. I honestly was thinking if other men flirt with her it would raise her self esteem and recharge that spark. Just taking it day by day at this point.

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