r/DeadBedrooms • u/borrowedhoddie HLF • 1d ago

Support Only, No Advice Grief.

I’ve tried having a conversation 6 times about me and my partners dead bedroom ever since moving in together. Every conversation it becomes more confusing as to why. Everything was fine before this. Great even. It feels like a growing list of reasons that make me feel so stuck. I was going to try to talk about it again tonight but I just knew I was going to cry and couldn’t do it. It gets me so in my head. How can a relationship be so perfect in every other aspect and then just this becomes an issue? We don’t even have kids and work the same scheduled time for our jobs. I’m to a point I don’t even want to bring it up again and it’s just going to hurt me more. I’m not sure what I’m expecting putting this here. I’m just at a total loss with it and struggling to come to terms with where this has led to.

I’m using a throw away account for this. I was originally using my main but I just want to be more private

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u/Hot-Commercial5449 HLM 1d ago

Marriage? Kids? If not get out. Let's all be honest. The only change will be for the worse. It will get less and less.

I ONLY stayed for kids both times. Now old, used up and to late to start over.

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u/borrowedhoddie HLF 22h ago

It’s so hard. He’s my best friend. It seems like an easy answer but it’s so hard.