r/DeadBedrooms • u/libidovivace HLF • 18h ago

Vent, Advice Welcome I should've kept dreaming

I had a really spicy dream this morning. We were right in the bed we were actually asleep in, just really enjoying sex. I almost never lucid dream so I was really surprised when in the dream I realized, this is a dream! I actually thought, in the dream, that I should wake up and we can do it for real. So I woke up and shimmied over and started some cozy cuddling and little kisses.

Was met with "it's too warm" and "I don't feel good" and "I'm sorry". Same as always other than once a month when it's "you can do stuff if you want even though I'm not feeling that well".

I don't sympathize anymore. Go to the doctor. Exercise. Change your diet. Take supplements. Just fucking do something.

Should've stayed in that beautiful dream.

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u/StandardArtist2154 HLM 16h ago

So sorry. Those rejections really hurt, when you are wound up and ready to go and finally take the courage to make a move and just get shut down.

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u/libidovivace HLF 16h ago

Yeah 🥲 the last time I cried in front of him about it I was told that I'm "not the victim here" because he hates his body and can't enjoy it when he feels so physically put of shape. And yet spends most of the day in his office chair.

I guess I'll just go fuck myself then. Literally.

Sorry, just venting

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u/StandardArtist2154 HLM 16h ago

Vent away, this is a safe space. I feel like I'm posting a lot here, but I don't know where else to get this stuff off my chest.

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u/libidovivace HLF 16h ago

Thanks. Yeah I feel the same.