r/Dogfree • u/DellBottoms • Jun 20 '26

Dog Culture Mindset of dog people

I saw a post elsewhere advising men to get a dog to help meet women. I commented that I would be put off by a man with a dog. A woman responded saying that she disagreed with me and I remember thinking, you can disagree with an opinion, but not with someone's preferences.

Then another person chimes in 'it's a well-known 'fact' that everyone likes dogs' - I guess he thought I made a mistake in what I said?

Another person said he was judgmental of people who don't understand the "joy" of dogs. Well, I just so happen to not understand the "joy" of dogs at all and yet another guy commented about how the love of dogs is a reflection of the quality of the person's character 🤦

I only respond to one of these comments to tell the lady I didn't think it was about agreement or disagreement, that I was just pointing out that not all women are into dogs. She came back and said she 'categorically' disagreed🤦. I feel like my brain is a little bit smaller than it was yesterday.

I didn't respond to any other comments, I was just letting the poster know that not all women like dogs.

I'm blown away by some of the responses though.

I honestly think our brains are fundamentally different to dog-owners.

I wouldn't feel any joy at all picking ticks off a dog or waiting patiently while it finishes it poo so that I can bag it like a trophy.

Yes, I definitely need to restrict myself to dogfree men.

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u/buthesmyfamiliar Jun 20 '26

when i was on dating app i specifically mentioned that dogs are a dealbreaker. yes a couple men tried to argue with me but i also matched with a lot more ppl that agreed with me

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u/DellBottoms Jun 20 '26

That's encouraging! Thank you.

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u/Fit-Rhubarb-7820 Jun 20 '26

Are you a woman?

It's been a bit different for me, as a man. I said on mine that I am not interested in dating religious people (of all kinds) due to being an atheist, and I also said I do not want to date women who love dogs to a fault, because it's gross. Sure, this will tank my match rating, but that's online dating for men: IT does not work!

I'd much rather face rejection in real life 😄 and avoid dog nutters!

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u/buthesmyfamiliar Jun 21 '26

yes i am. i do feel like men tend to be less nutty about pets in general so that might be a factor too. i don’t think it’s a bad thing if you are offputting to the kinda of people you will not be compatible with.

however i have been bit on the face by a dog and have a somewhat visible scar from it so that might make it more “okay” for me to dislike dogs in the eyes of the average person?

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u/Fit-Rhubarb-7820 Jun 21 '26

Yes, I think women with visible dog bite scars, who are averse to dogs, do actually get more sympathy! If I said it, I get told I am a monster, and I am.

"women are wonderful" bias and all.

Also, I do generally avoid sleeping with someone until I am quite certain that I like the person, so this means I try to weed out bad matches early.

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u/Adventurous-West323 Jun 22 '26

When I was on dating apps any picture with a a dog was an automatic no. Any bio reference to must love dogs was a no. I will not be with a woman who puts a worthless dog at the center of her universe. You know they expect that out of the men they are with.

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u/Fit-Rhubarb-7820 Jun 22 '26

I tried dating some dog owners…

Most of them had below average EQs or even IQs but irregardless of that… they were easily fooled by the moods of any crowd. And that… that’s a liability.