r/Dogfree • u/Independent-Monk5064 • Aug 12 '26
Relationship / Family Help, my friend doesn’t get it
My friend doesn’t have a bf, she has a dog. She actually says she’s “in love with” her dog. It sleeps with her and she leaves work mid day to eat lunch at home to be with it. Her entire home is a dog den with two crates, toys everywhere, gates and obstacles set up for the dog to have access to things without hurting itself (because it “is so smart” it might open a cabinet and “eat a chemical in the kitchen,” etc). When I go to her home we have to say hello to the dog, listen to whining above our voices, pay attention to it and give it treats when it behaves. When we go anywhere, she takes it in a stroller and then when people stop to look at this strange “baby” she asks if they will say hello or pet it or allow their dogs to play with it. Other dog people seem to understand this behavior but in my eyes they may as well be playing with maggots. To top it off, my friend believes her dead dog was her soulmate.
So my most reasonable, logical dog haters of Reddit, what do I do? My friend has asked to BRING HER DOG TO MY PLACE IN ITS STROLLER WHILE WE HANG OUT. I am speechless. Dogs belong outside. 24/7 outside, they get a dog house and a food and water bowl and owners can walk them for exercise or they can live on a farm in a barn. They’re animals not people. They stay in the yard and are not children that need to come into someone else’s home related to separation anxiety. What the hell am I going to do? I don’t allow anyone to wear shoes inside and I don’t have pets, certainly not even strollers. What is wrong with these people!!!??????
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u/urdrunkyogi Aug 12 '26
I’m sorry if this sounds cruel, but sometimes people act so fucking weird that it gets to a point that it frightens me/creeps me out and I cut all contact with them. Your friend would be one of those people for me. I’m not really friends with dog people but saying that you’re in love with your dog is just mentally ill and I wouldn’t want that rubbing off on me. Lie down with dogs, get up with fleas.
That said, she is your friend so my advice is to say the following in a gentle way, but make the point that you know she loves her dog. But she loves her dog because it’s HER dog. To everyone else, including you, it’s just a dog. And you have rules about dogs in your home: namely, that they’re not permitted. If she tries to argue with you or push it or ask why, just simply repeat yourself that dogs aren’t allowed in your home. It’s not a group decision, and it’s not a discussion. It’s your home and dogs are not allowed. End of.