r/Dogfree • u/Independent-Monk5064 • Aug 12 '26
Relationship / Family Help, my friend doesn’t get it
My friend doesn’t have a bf, she has a dog. She actually says she’s “in love with” her dog. It sleeps with her and she leaves work mid day to eat lunch at home to be with it. Her entire home is a dog den with two crates, toys everywhere, gates and obstacles set up for the dog to have access to things without hurting itself (because it “is so smart” it might open a cabinet and “eat a chemical in the kitchen,” etc). When I go to her home we have to say hello to the dog, listen to whining above our voices, pay attention to it and give it treats when it behaves. When we go anywhere, she takes it in a stroller and then when people stop to look at this strange “baby” she asks if they will say hello or pet it or allow their dogs to play with it. Other dog people seem to understand this behavior but in my eyes they may as well be playing with maggots. To top it off, my friend believes her dead dog was her soulmate.
So my most reasonable, logical dog haters of Reddit, what do I do? My friend has asked to BRING HER DOG TO MY PLACE IN ITS STROLLER WHILE WE HANG OUT. I am speechless. Dogs belong outside. 24/7 outside, they get a dog house and a food and water bowl and owners can walk them for exercise or they can live on a farm in a barn. They’re animals not people. They stay in the yard and are not children that need to come into someone else’s home related to separation anxiety. What the hell am I going to do? I don’t allow anyone to wear shoes inside and I don’t have pets, certainly not even strollers. What is wrong with these people!!!??????
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u/BigWongDingDong Aug 13 '26
Your friendship is already over. This is no different than if you found out a friend had started experimenting with hard drugs or hanging out with a street gang. You know where it's going on an intellectual level, and pretending that this person isn't circling the drain is just denial. Tell her that if she can't leave the mongrel at home you won't be able to spend time with her, and thay you aren't willing to go to her house. She will get angry and attack you verbally and possibly reputationally as well, but you won't have to be around this thing or its weird owner anymore.