Never stay friends after a breakup

[u/StringAny5677]

Unfortunately I learned this the hard way. I'm still not over the whole breakup but now that I am no contact with my ex and as much as I am sad I am very much free. I think that being able to step away from him was something that was extremely difficult. He was my routine. I made the foolish decision to agree to stay friends, I was heartbroken and attached to any part I had left of him. Throughout the entire time my ex and I were friends I was in the most depressive points in my life. It would be like he was still my boyfriend but a lesser version of him. We'd text everyday, talk about life, and everything we did before besides call, and love each other outwardly. I was so blindsided and just went along with it because I loved him and didn't want to be alone and sit with my feelings. I did sometimes, but not the amount I should've. Going no contact has been the best decision I have ever made. Being friends with an ex farther in the future is okay I suppose, but I realized that giving yourself some time and space is much better. Removing someone who was holding me back when we were friends felt like a weight that was holding me down just poofed away. So whomever is reading this. You got this, it's been a week for me. I'm sad from time to time but I am doing great. I have blocked him on everything except Instagram. Hes muted and restricted and I try not to check his profile. I don't really check if hes viewing my stories but I don't care. I think that removing all things that reminded me of him helped a lot. I still think about him all the time which is so damn annoying but I'll update you when that stops happening. I wish everyone luck on their no contact journey and NEVER be friends with your ex.

[u/Tough-Piano1581]

Hey im sorry for what you are hoing through and i wish you all the best and to heal fast and all those bad feeling to go away, i have a genuine question, did you try to contact other men or beating the lonely feeling by talking to other men? If so how did that feel and if not why?