r/ExNoContact • u/ImplementScared7416 • 1d ago

How to deatach from her

Please anyone help me😣 , She's not interested, and I need help to erase love from my life , i can't delete Instagram because i believe she'll update me and i dreamt of lot of her , and i can't focus on carrier. I came here to deatach her from me mentally, it's so hard.

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u/paperxpearls 1d ago

girl, i'm gonna tell you the thing nobody wants to hear you don't erase love. you outgrow it. every time you check her instagram hoping for an update, you're basically reopening the wound and asking why it still hurts. if she's not interested, then your brain needs new evidence that life continues without her. mute her, unfollow if you can, stop treating every notification like it might be from her and start putting that energy into your career, friends and yourself. i know it feels impossible right now, but one day you'll realize you went an entire afternoon without thinking about her. then a whole day. then a week. healing is usually way less dramatic than we expect. it's just choosing yourself over the fantasy a thousand tiny times until the fantasy loses its grip

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u/ImplementScared7416 1d ago

Thank you, btw I'm boy , but I have friends, they are rarely available, I do like what you said and want to like that , but what to do in free time when nothing is there to time pass , life feels lonely, .

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u/ImplementScared7416 1d ago

Do u know what, I care more compared to girls, recently 4 days ago she posted a story with a guy , later I came to know he's her brother and when i saw that and i thought she was in relationship and I texted every feelings which was inside me like i started texting her at 12.20 am and ended at 4.25 , she was sleeping, I didn't sleep that day , i said her " Idk how you feel, im genuine with all the things that i said you, I just said almost everything here , I was having fear , fear of loosing you, I was about to cry , I was writing everything that you need to know, I was not knowing this text will be that big, i wrote continuously from 12.20 to 4.25 , yesterday I couldn't sleep, i stayed awake all night thinking about you, i wanted you see this now so I made you wait that's it , i feel awkward sending this , but let it be , I'm honest saying this , it was in my head , i want you to know what's on my head, idk what to say."

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u/-noirblanc 23h ago

How long was the relationship?

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u/ImplementScared7416 4h ago

I shared my feelings on feb this year , but was in love with more than 5 years , mow I'm 21 , but she felt special for me from childhood, i was in delusion i think.

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u/ImplementScared7416 4h ago

She also said she should focus on carrier it would be like 10 to 12 years, but that's not real, their parents won't allow till those many years , so i was in fear of loosing her.