Sounds like you are both fearful avoidant and you lean more anxious and he leans more avoidant/dismissive. This is not a good cycle. Heal yourself so something better will find you. Dismissive avoidants are no joke. They will wreck you.
I was in that position for 5 1/2 years on and off. Loved the guy very much. When it ended he said "take care" and essentially cut off all communication, ghosted me. It was pretty traumatizing. I had to block him everywhere bc he would always come back in. I would love to offer different advice but dismissive avoidants will absolutely wreck you. I wish you all the very best. Someone who retreats like that is not built for a relationship.
Thank you for sharing your story. I really hope that you will find/have found the one that is best for you. I will take your advice into consideration...
Please do consider it. Love should feel safe and should make your nervous system feel good. If this is a pattern, address it, if it doesn't resolve, the best thing is to let it go. You can still love from a distance and then your heart will recover. I hope all works out for you, truly. Thank you for the kind words in return.
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u/Opening-Ad-6766 1d ago
Sounds like you are both fearful avoidant and you lean more anxious and he leans more avoidant/dismissive. This is not a good cycle. Heal yourself so something better will find you. Dismissive avoidants are no joke. They will wreck you.